Love Actually

Love does not happen to everyone,
it is made for those lucky fools,
who risk their hearts and
surrender their souls.....
                          -anon
              
            The man who is loved by a woman is lucky indeed, but the one to be envied is he who loves , however little he gets in return .How much greater is Dante gazing at his Beatrice than Beatrice walking by him in apparent disdain.

                   I've been learning to love , to love unconditionally , without wanting anything in return .I often say to myself...imagining that I'm telling her "I love you , but I want nothing in return "
So far , all I've done is imagine.

Love is spiritual .Meera understood that .Meera , our ultimate model of a woman for unconditional love , loved Lord Krishna without ever wanting anything in return...her love was fierce and unwavering and pure.
Today she'd called as obsessive , but love makes one that way , sometimes .

                             Love does not materialize in an instant . A possible analogy :Love is not instant coffee , it is a process, that takes time, where one has to pick the coffee beans and dry them and grind them , and then make coffee...

                                                                      ...and whatever you do , you have to make an attempt , disregarding the results, because the process of loving itself is well worth it.

Falling in love is a fallacy .
One does not fall in love , he or she sinks in it ...

                                                               Love is like a chocolate quicksand -sweet , certain and slow.All you have to do is jump into it with both feet first and wait for the slow and sweet sinking in love .Once you are in it , there is no point in resisting , because escape , though not impossible , is hard.

                                       I remember a wise old teacher telling  me "We have bastardized the word love , attaching the wrong meaning to such a beautiful word, corrupting it, making it a blasphemy to utter such words as 'I love You ' .We need to restore our ability to love others , then perhaps , we can save ourselves"

                                                   And then he paused .He was tired , but he said "are you up for a little game ? Will you do as I say ?"

We all agreed.Because we all loved him.

"Ok , I want you all to say the words 'I love You' to each and every person in this classroom and mean it"

The classroom consisted of men and women of all ages .Love had indeed become a dirty word.People had a mortified look on their faces.

What ? Say 'I Love You' to a stranger ? I've never even done that to my wife !

But in a way , saying it to strangers was far more easier than saying it to the people you wanted to say it to.


(What if it came out all wrong ?)
(What if I screwed it up ?)
(What if she hates me once I tell this ?)


Our teacher saw some of us hesitate, so he continued "Love is love.There are no sexual connotations .Love is pure , love is spiritual.And after all , isn't love just a word ? Words ...can they hurt so much when they are not supposed to ? "

They can , and sometimes they will.

I know.

There are so many instances where saying "I love You " has put people in trouble.The most recent being Criss Angel .The context of the sentence will be argued by the opposing lawyers and decided a judge , but Criss Angel did fall in a lot of trouble for saying "I Love You "

I really didn't have trouble saying those words.

"I LOVE YOU "
I said without batting an eyelid to a kid just out of high school ,

"Ilove You "
I uttered again to a dentist in early twenties.Her eyes twinkled as I said them , and soon a flurry of "I love You's " were exchanged between all of us.

We felt different.We learnt something we had unlearnt a long time ago.WE LEARNED TO LOVE.

We loved because we could....

                                                        I still imagine the day I can face her , maybe tell her the truth ..."I do love you , but its okay if you dont want to or cannot . You are not at fault here for not loving me ".Sheer cowardice prevents me...I'm ashamed to admit.

I still remember my teacher saying "Love is all you need , to heal the world .

p.s.
(Hope my future wife does not read this ,because then she'll be demanding a few tough answers , And I , not being able to lie , will not know who'll end up geting hurt.)

U love someone ,
You marry someone else.
The one you marry becomes your wife
and the one you loved becomes
the password of your e-mail .

Naaah !

I'm good at keeping secrets and some secrets are never meant to be revealed.But I can't lie.If she asks , then I must tell.But she must ask first.

So , I Love You and I want nothing in return.

(lets see if I'm stirring up a hornets nest ! )