The Relationship Manual

                           Middle-class husbands are like appliances.They come with a manual of
instructions which you are supposed to read before install them.They are guaranteed by the church and Good Housekeeping , but the guarantee is void if you don't follow the
instructions.There are maintenance manulas on every newsstand telling you how to keep them oiled properly.And when you have worn one out , madam , you can turn him in for a good
price at the courthouse , after which you can stop worrying and send your clothes to the
laundry. Then you will have plenty of free time on your hands which you can use to sit
around the house and bite your nails.

                             Middle-Class wives are also like appliances .They come with a manual of
instructions you are supposed to read before you install them.They are guaranteed by the
Church and the Good Housekeeping, but the gurantee is void if you don't follow the
instructions.There are maintenance manuals on every newsstand telling you how to keep them  oiled properly.The difference is that instead of your wearing her out , sir , she wears you
out , and instead of your turning her in and getting part of your money back , she turns you in and you have you keep up the payments .What kind of washing machine is that ? No
wonder some men prefer the laundromat.

Dr.Eric Berne (Author of Games People Play )

So here's a skeleton manual for dealing with introverts in various relationships.



While some introverts are perfectly happy without a committed relationship , most prefer to
be intimately involved with someone.

             To avoid having to make the first move , introverts often find partners by being set up on dates or introduced by a friend, co-worker or family member.This arrangement seems to be
Fine with women , but it fails with a man , as he must always be the overt initiator in any
relatioship , as per the unwritten laws of the society.Men , If you wanna , U gotta make
the first move .

                  We see many introverts married or in a partnership with extroverts , and there are several good reasons for this .For one thing , there are more extroverts -thrre extroverts for
every one introvert - and they are easier to meet .While introverts may be surfing the
Internet , taking a solo bike ride , or snuggled up reading at home , extroverts are out
there mingling -at parties , sports clubs , or professional organizations .And then there's
the issue of 'otherness;.Carl Jung thought that as humans we are constantly seeking to be a
complete person.Therefore , he believed , we are attracted to and select mates who are our
opposites.Another reason introverts are drawn to extroverts is because extroverts often
assume the talking and "doing" duties in the relationship , which means introverts can
relax and feel less pressured.

                                       To introverts , extroverts look as if they could leap tall buildings in a
single leap .Look , up in the sky , it's SuperExtrovert.
(If you are reading this , this is why I like you very much, you know who you are)



Lets look at some of the permutations and combinations of a typical Introvert Extrovert couple relationship dynamics.



The advantages and Challenges of a Intro male-Intro female relationship.

Advantages

They listen attentively to each other

They are patient about thinking things over.

They understand each other's needs for privacy and quiet.

They have fewer conflicts.

Challenges

They may lose touch with the outside world.

They may see everything in terms of themselves.

They may avoid discussing conflicts , differences and separate needs.

They may rely on each other for too many emotional needs.


Advantages and Challenges of a Extro male-intro female relationship

Advantages

The female listens to the male

The male partner encourages the female to be active and social.

She has more freedom because her partner makes few demands on her time.

He has more personal autonomy because his partner enjoys her time alone.


Challenges

The male often lacks intimacy skills.

The female partner may not talk about her thoughts and feelings.

He may blame her for all the failures in the relatioship; she may accept the blame or

ignore it .

She may have trouble asking directly for what she wants.


(Often , an intro female is attracted to the extro male .Why not ? He is warm , friendly ,

outgoing )


Advantages and Challenges of a Intro male-extro female relationship.

Advantages

The woman may have more power than in traditional relationships

the man listens to her and values her opinion.

He has less pressure to take the lead.

Both partners have presonal space , and they balance each other's activity levels.


Challenges

The man can feel suffocated by the woman

The woman may not have emotional needs met ; she may become demanding.

She may feel ashamed of her partner ; she may see himself as weak , passive , or avoiding.

His self esteem may decline.