Confessions of a Chronic Loner A.K.A The Breakup

Confessions of a Chronic Loner
(portions of the dialogue have been deleted to make it a monologue)

Rahul bose says 'Something's drastically wrong with me !"He confesses that he doesn't have romantic notions about girls anymore.
So Mr.Bose , what about your sex life ? the reporter asks .
" I watch music videos " rahul bose says rather candidly
" with the volume turned down and the lights dimmed and the door bolted " he adds.
And besides he says he is not ready to share his life with some one else and well , he says that he's also short and ugly.

There are some of us , chronic loners of the world , who'd rather be alone than being in company.
How many dates have I been on ?
Zero , nada , zip and all that !

Yes I am thirty-one years old and I've never had a date.
Well , babes , you look stunned !
Well , I've had relations which were just based on financial transactions , but they would never qualify as dates in any context.

Tell you what babes , I never wanted to date .
Didn't have that urge nor enough peer or parental pressure.Don't get me wrong now , I prefer women , infact I fall in love with someone everyday !But its not the same thing...

And one more thing .We live in India.

No , my parents are not strict or rigidly orthodox.

Yes , They'd want me to marry a girl from the same religion and caste and subcaste and preferably from our extended family.

NO , its not like marrying your sister , its more like ...well..like marrying your maternal aunt's husband's sister's daughter.

No , its not like marrying your cousin sister...in fact , we indians tend to use the term cousin sister or cousin brother erroneously.A cousin is a cousin and a sister is a sister .These two terms cannot , I repeat , Cannot be clubbed together and used as a descriptive term for a relation .

What do mean when you say Arranged Marriage is a gross , outdated concept ?
My parents got married the same way , and my grandparents , my uncles, aunts and all other relatives that I know of have gotten married this way.

No ,I don't think Arranged Marriage goes against Darwin's Theory of natural selection. It is still the survival of the best , but instead of individuals it is the whole family that partakes in this so-called arranged marriage .

Yes, I'd rather marry through an arranged marriage system.
Ok , it is a bit unromantic ...
But , my family will be happy ...You know we are Indians...Family comes first , always , and this way everyone is satisfied.

You should know of this little equity theory that psychologists have developed based on their observations of successful relationships.
Equity theorists tell us the more equitable a romantic relationship is, the more likely it is to progress to marriage.
What Currency "Buys" a Good Partner?
Proponents of the equity principle list six elements which are assets on the "open market" when lovers go husband or wife shopping.
1. Physical appearance
2. Possessions or money
3. Status or prestige
4. Information or knowledge
5. Social graces or personality
6. Inner nature

 In the happiest relationships, the partners are more or less equal in each of the above categories. If not, their qualities balance each other out across the board.

For example, how often, walking down the street, have you passed a stunning women on the arm of a pinch-faced, much-older man? What was your first thought? Admit it, you probably
said to yourself, "Gosh, he must be really rich." You see a handsome man walking with his arm around a very plain woman and you muse, "Gosh, she must have a great personality." That's the equity, or horse-trading, principle at work. It can't be denied. Good looks, lots of money, and high social status are definitely legal tender in the acquisition of love.

It's easy to understand why, in an inequitable relationship, the superior partner might be dissatisfied.
After the first blush of love wears off, he or she looks around and feels deserving of a much better deal. But what about the inferior partner?

Shouldn't he or she feel darn lucky to have bagged such a great mate? Supposedly, yes, but in reality, the inferior partner will wind up worried, insecure, and always afraid of not measuring up.
Insidious things start happening and the inequality monster starts eating away the love. In inequitable marriages, partners start taking advantage of the relationship to even the score.

Let's say you're an American princess with lots of money and good looks. You fall in love with thehandsome, sensitive plumber who comes to fix the pipes on Daddy's yacht. Because you believe in
true love, you marry him. Now, obviously you call the shots in the relationship, like choosing where to vacation and what kind of car to buy. At first you both consider it fair for you to make the
decision because, after all, Daddy's money is paying for it.
But Sensitive Plumber has pride. As time goes by, his ego can't take it. Even though he felt lucky when he married you, the love affair ends in bitter divorce. You really didn't do anything wrong. He didn't, either. He's a nice guy. You played fair. It's just that the inequity overwhelmed the two of you. He winds up much happier with the waitress from the coffee shop.

OK , let me stop boring you with this psychobabble and come to the grand conclusion.

Here it is...

So babes , its a matter of equity .I'm a practical man.I've got my career ahead of me, and I've got a family that loves me to bits behind me.
Its a tough juggling act , life , that is...

Lets me just get married to the first girl that my family chooses for me.I'm sure they'll choose the right one for me.She'll be beautiful , intelligent , loving and caring and all that .

What about love ?

Love...Hmm...

Love can be dealt with later.

Maybe I'll woo her with a song , a love note or a poem.

Love will have to wait...Love's on hold for the time being.

Besides , You and I ... we were never meant to be .Its equity dear.Someday I hope you'll understand...