Monday, April 9, 2007
Attraction is strange
Attraction is strange.
Now we've finally got all the pieces we need to explain ATTRACTION and
how women feel it for some men, but not others.
If a man has great genes, a woman might be willing to mate with him
even though he ís not going to stick around to help raise the child.
If a man has money (or means), a woman might be willing to mate
with him because he can provide best for her (and her future offspring).
Ask the Bartender
Why do most girls want me as a "Friend" ? I'm a nice guy, I treat them well, respect them , don't disagree with them , but NO ! All they want to be is friends ? :(I'm attracted to them , but they say say they like me but not in a serious way ?
what is happening ? Anon
You see, most guys have a big misconception they don't realize there ís
a difference between affection and ATTRACTION, and they're creating
affection when they want ATTRACTION. Guys who often get befriended read
signs of affection as possible attraction, get full of hope, and think she'll realize she's got exactly what she wants in them as her friend.
Attraction is what women feel for bad boys. Affection is what women feel for male friends and guys who take them out for so long that they fall for
him.
You canít get to attraction through the affection of being a nice guy
who buys gifts and dinner. Women say, I like him as a friend, even about
guys who would be a perfect match for what they say they want from a
man.
There are two types of relationships: Friends and Lovers. Friend
relationships are nice, but predictable, have no spark, and are sexually blah.
Lover relationships are emotional and passionate with lots of attraction and sexual chemistry.
The truth is that they want something more exciting than what they say
they want. If you ask a woman who has a history of dating jerks and abusive guys, all you have to do is say, Yeah, but I'll bet the sex was great, wasn't it? and you'll see the knowing smile.
Translating Between Affection and Attraction
Here ís 7 behaviors that create affection, and their attraction-creating
counter-parts:
Affection-Behavior
Buying Gifts (Dinner, Flowers)
Seeking Approval
Showing Off
Listening to Problems
Doing Favors
Accepting Flaky Behavior
Changing to Please Her
Attraction-Behavior
Surprise Romance
Indifference
Being Vague, Elusive, Mysterious
Teasing
Acting with Self-Respect
Having High Expectations
Maintaining Self-Confidence
Learn these behaviours and you'll see a change !
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In other words, just be natural. Be your mean old self and you'll attract the kind of partner who'll stick with you forever. so simple....
ReplyDeleteagain, well said Teh. the thing is, does vk want the type he attracts? ^_^
ReplyDeleteAll depends on what he wants, one night stands or partner for life. If it's the latter, you can't play act 24/7 for the rest of your life.
ReplyDeleteu gotta write a book dude...
ReplyDeleteyou hav enough substance to fill in....
Man, that opened my eyes!!! Thanks :)
ReplyDeleteStrangely enough , men and women want the same things ; family , career and happiness in that order .
ReplyDeleteMen and women are from earth !
Not from different planets !
If a man has great genes, a woman might be willing to mate with him
ReplyDeleteeven though he ís not going to stick around to help raise the child.
If a man has money (or means), a woman might be willing to mate
with him because he can provide best for her (and her future offspring).
This is a part of research that showed that women are more likely to commit adultery than men.
But its all for a noble cause.Its for improving the gene pool ! (Could be used as a great defence argument )
mothers will do anything for their kids
ReplyDeletemothers will do anything for the good of their kids , and inadvertently improve the gene pool !
ReplyDeleteIs there a better argument ?
Hmmm...
So much for sacrosanct marriages !