Monday, April 30, 2007

The Last Leg Lock

 

 

 

 

 

Morning rounds.

In the fifth floor of the hospital , in the west wing , I know that a man is sitting up in his bed waiting for me.Chavo Gutiriezz is sixty three, and he is diabetic .It is two weeks since I amputated his left leg just below the knee.I walk down the corridor but do not go straight into his room.Instead , I pause in the doorway.He is not yet aware of my presence , but gazes down at the place in the bed where his leg used to be , and now there is the collapsed leg of his pyjamas.He is totally absorbed , like an athlete appraising his own body.What is he thinking , I wonder.Is he dreaming of the outline of his toes ? Does he see , in its absence , his foot's incandescent ghost? Does his phantom limb still ache? Does he feel that I'm responsible for his loss ? Is he still angry with me?

I watch him from the doorway .Its a kind of spying.I know.

Chavo Gutiriezz is bald , totally-Michael Jordan bald.He is naked to the waist, so I can see his man-breasts.They are samoan breasts, something a sumo would proudly carry on him, the inverted triangles of wobbly adipose tissue from which the nipples swing , dark as garnets.

I've seen enough.Step into the light , Dr.Ramasamy , and reveal yourself I command myself.

"How did the night go Chavo ?"

He looks at me for a moment , "Shut the door" he says.I do , and move to the side of the bed.He takes my left hand in both of his gnarly , stubby rough hands , gazes at it , turns it over , then back , fondling , at last holding it up to his cheek .I do not withdraw from  the loving .After a while he relinquishes my hand , and looks up at me.

"How's the pain ?" I ask

He chooses to ignore the question , but continue looking at me.I know at once he has made his decision.

"You know Doc, you look so much like my son...my son who hasn't spoken to me in years"

"We latinos and you Indianos look a lot alike each other, Doc"

He sighs.The time has come .He must unburden himself.

"Ever heard of The Silver Bane?" he asks , now almost whispering , as if he was letting me on to a secret.

"What?"

"The Silver Bane "he says "You've never heard of him?"   

 "No"

"Ach ! , The Silver Bane ? C'mon doc , remember ..."

All at once , there is a recollection .It is dim , distant , but coming near.

"You mean the wrestler?"

Eagerly he nods , and his man-breasts heave sideways.At sixty three , he is grotesquely huge , with disproportionately longish arms.he looks like a Human-ape chimera.

He wants me to remember.

"Well yes ..." I say , still unsure.

"I saw him wrestle in montreal " I say , "a long , long time ago"

"Hah ! " he smiles triumphantly , "That was me " His smile continues to broaden , now almost ear to ear.

In my profession , patients under morphine and a host of other painkillers often confess to me.Sometimes  I meet   Napoleons, Einsteins and occasionally Ganeshas .But this ? Never !

"You ?" I try to smile , trying my best to hide my incredulity.

"You saw me !"

"No " I begin to say , but then Chavo , with  his longish arms , makes a one legged leap on the bed  leans from his bed and gets a large Brown envelope from his nightstand.

"Wait " He says , rummaging through what  I imagine are photos and newspaper clippings , but I slip away  down the memory lane.

It was almost fifteen years ago .I'm ten years old .Its my first time in montreal .The first thing you notice about Montreal is it is as cold as chennai (Madras in those days)  is hot .Canada embraced  an Indian family of four -A biochemistry professor , a housewife , and their two sons. And we in turn embraced Canada as our new home away from home.

We are out with Uncle Luc , our neighbour and his two sons , our best fiends , Ken and Matt.This is the first time we are going out with some one else other than our family.We are at Maple Leaf Arena , we sit high and near the centre .A ring stands alone in the centre.

It begins.

            The wrestlers circle.They grapple , they  apply choke holds and arm bars .A submission move ends the match.The wrestlers are replaced by another pair.At last it is the main event.The Silver Bane v/s The Spike.

On the cover of the program notes , there is a picture of spike training himself by sleeping on a bed of nails daily.The Spike feels no pain, it is explained , due to his practice taught by an ancient Indian Fakir.The Silver Bane's trademark is a Silver Luchador mask with rectangular slits for eyes and mouth.He is never seen without it , state the program .No one knows who the Silver Bane really is !

"Good " says Uncle Luc "Now you'll see something "

They come down separate aisles , both waving and hi-fiving the cheering crowds.

The Spike shows off his freshly inflicted wounds on his back , the one that he got from sleeping on beds of nails.The crowd booes.He is clearly a heel.

The Silver Bane is a lot smaller .He is short , has ape-ish arms , and pendulous man-breasts that move on their own accord , demonstrating inertia and its effects.He jumps on to the top rope and waves.The crowd roars .

The match begins before the bell is rung.Immediately Silver Bane is held in a vicious headlock but The Silver Bane throws The Spike onto the ropes .Spike is quick .Bouncing off the ropes , he delivers a bone crunching drop kick.The Silver Bane falls with a crack.Was it the sound of the breaking of a bone or was it the cracking of a board ? The Spike quickly lifts Silver Bane and gives him a german Suplex.Silver Bane is down , and The Spike pummels him on the ground.

The Spike goes for a tendon twisting ankle lock and then proceeds with a knee breaking leg lock ..It is visually apparent that it is painful.The Silver Bane does not hide his agony , instead pounds and slaps the floor with his hand , but does not submit .

"Thats not fair " I say "Hurting him like that "

"It's a submission move " Uncle Luc says "its fair"

"But its not fair " I say again .The man is in obvious agony .I can feel the pain.I begin to tremble.

And now , The Spike does something unspeakable.While holding onto the leg lock , he maneuvers himself near The Silver Bane's face , and with one hand , he bends and grasps the mask where it clings to The Silver Bane's head.

And he pulls.

He is going to strip it off ! Lay bare an ultimate carnal mystery ! Suddenly it is beyond mere physical violence.Now I am on my feet , shouting into the Maple Leaf Arena.

"Watch out " I yell "Stop him , please somebody stop him "

Uncle Luc simply chuckles.

Yet The Silver Bane hears me , I know it .And rallies from his bed of pain .He drags himself to the ropes and breaks off the submission hold.The crowd roars.

A quick huricanarana and the The Spike is down.Dazed and confused.A small package by the Silver Bane , and "One ! " Two !"Three !"

The crowd erupts.And I'm stunned to silence by the sudden turn of events .All this I remember as I stand at the bedside of Chavo Gutiriezz.

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Once again , I'm in the operating room.Its been two years since I amputated the left leg.Now Chavo' s right leg has become gangrenous.

I have already scrubbed .I stand to one side wearing my gown and my gloves.And...I'm masked.

Upon the table lies Chavo Gutiriezz , pinned in a bright fierce light .Spinal anesthesia has been administered.He is hooked on to a multitude of sensors that give constant feedback of his condition.He sleeps, his mouth stuck to a grimace.It seems to me that I have never seen such misery.

An orderly holds Chavo's leg up so that the intern  can paint it with antiseptic.

I still remember , fifteen years ago , he had miraculously escaped from a painful leg lock from the Spike.

"Its not fair" I say out aloud , but no one seems to hear me over  Beethoven playing in the operating room.And I step forward , to make sure that no one will ever put The Silver Bane in a leg lock submission, Forever.

Sunday, April 29, 2007

For Women :How to determine if your date is a psycho.

How to Determine If Your Date Is a Psycho


1. Watch for the following:


* A Caucasian male in his twenties or thirties


* Obsession with fire or matches


* Cruelty to animals


* History of bed-wetting


* Sexually abused as a child


* Middle-class background combined with loner behavior


* Difficulty maintaining relationships


An individual who exhibits more than three of these traits may be dangerous.


2. Trust your intuition. Your instinct is a powerful weapon. If something feels wrong, it probably is.


3. Check him out officially. Obtain his social security number and investigate him. Call the Federal Prison Locator Service (202-307-3126) to determine if he was ever incarcerated. Many online companies can aid in financial reports or tracking down previous addresses. You may also want to enlist the services of a private detective.


4. If you discover grounds for suspicion, break off the relationship immediately. Be clear and definitive about your decision. Return all of his belongings and gifts. Do not make promises to keep in touch. Be straightforward and kind, and talk only about yourself and why the relationship no longer works for you. Do not blame him. Try not to make him angry.


5. Take steps to maintain your safety.


* Carry a cell phone.


* Install a home security system.


* Change your phone numbers.


* Stay near populated, well-lit areas.


* Apprise a friend or relative of your concerns.


* Document any strange or unusual happenings.


* Take a personal safety/self-defense class.

Saturday, April 28, 2007

How to remove difficult clothing.






How to remove difficult clothing in a jiffy ?


Guys , you've always wanted to know how Joey Tribbiani does it ...


Now , you get to learn it , step by step.


Back-Clasping Bra (with One Hand)


1. Move your date forward. If your date is lying on her back or leaning against a sofa, you will not have the necessary space to attempt this maneuver. Use a gentle embrace to guide her into a position so that you have access to her back.


2. Visualize the clasp. You are most likely dealing with a hook-and-eye closure. The hooks are generally on her right side; the eyes will be on her left side.


3. Reach your right hand around to the clasp. Bend your index finger over the bra clasp and place it between the fabric and her skin.


4. Brace your thumb against the eyes of the clasp.


5. Holding your index finger down, push the hook-side of the bra with your thumb. It may take a few attempts before you get good at this, so do not be discouraged—try again.


6. Slide the now-open bra off her arms.


Be Aware


The bigger the breasts, the bigger the challenge, since the closure on her bra is bearing more weight and is likely to be more taut.


Front-Clasping Bra


1. Determine the type of clasp. There are two different varieties: a pin-in-slot clasp, which has a pin inserted vertically in a slot, and a clicker clasp. Clicker clasps, when closed, often look like a circle or an oval.


2. For a pin-in-slot clasp, pull the pin upward. This will free the two cups, and you can proceed to step 4.


3. For a clicker clasp, push both ends away from you. Place your thumbs at the center of the clasp and, using a motion similar to snapping a small wafer in half, apply pressure until it unclicks. Then lift up and separate the two halves of the closure. Depending on the clasp, you will need to raise either the left side or the right side first; try it one way, then the other.


4. Slide the now-open bra off her arms.


Be Aware



To maximize intimacy, maintain eye contact throughout the entire process. Do not look away unless you need to take a quick glance at the closure.



Tight Boots


1. Sprinkle powder down the shaft of the boots. Talcum powder or baking powder will reduce the sweat and humidity inside the boots, making them easier to remove.


2. Position your date on the edge of a bed or couch.


3. Position yourself opposite your date. Sit in a chair braced against a wall, or rest one knee on the floor with the other foot flat on the floor.


4. Cup the heel of the boot in your right hand. Place your left hand on the area of the boot that covers the front of the leg/shin. Instruct your date to relax the foot in the boot.


5. Pull firmly and steadily with your right hand. You should feel some give in the heel. When you cannot move the boot any more, gently rock the boot back and forth. Your date should point the foot only slightly. To avoid injuring the wearer, do not jerk the boot.


6. Slide the boot off slowly. Caress the newly released foot.

Friday, April 27, 2007

I want It.

Once in her eight month , the doctor had shot her a look across her table.She was a different doctor, more empathetic.She said , "If you don't want this baby , I know plenty of people who do"


"I want it " she lied.


She's read classics.She's read Mills and Boons (some might say they are classics in their own respect , but let us not digress).


She knows what a strong woman , a heroine of a novel would do.


She knows how the plot is supposed to turn out.


Basically she has two choices.One , she could invest all her hopes for her own future in this ambiguous mass of tissue -this foetus , her child.My child , it was always my dream to climb to  the stars.Now tears of joy spring at the sight of your overwhelming success.


The very thought made her sick , sick enough to retch , or maybe it was morning sickness.


Or two , she could abandon the baby and her husband and become really successful and really  evil.Haw haw , she tried to initiate an evil guffaw , but failed.


The second option was far more attractive , but none of her heroines from her worn out novels hadn't done it.None of the real persons whom she knew had done it.And , though an attractive option , she really didn't believe in it.


What , then ? What choice was left her ?


Just like the heroines she had admired , she knew what had to be done.She had to be strong.Strong for her would be husband , strong for her in laws , strong for her mother , strong for her child , strong -for Herself.


Answers were not clear, but a path was hazily forming.The baby would come first, and then all her dreams.She would not abandon her dreams , neither her child.Somehow she would make it all work , somehow.


She often wondered if she was really lying when she said , I want it ?


She decided she was not.


So , once again , Azra looks at her swollen belly and decides to narrate once again.She's been telling her child stories.She's told it everything-her  discovery of pregnancy , her confrontations , her confessions, her past , her present and her yet -undecided future.


She looked at the distended belly and said "I didn't lie " and smiled "I wanted you "


"I'll always love you , its a promise"


The End.

A Wire Hanger




We fought , screamed and cried all night.


"Pregnant before marriage ! , Hai rabba !"


"what about your future?"


"we should have never let you out of the house" mom kept on lamenting.


We both cried that night.


It was , for me a release  of all the pent up emotions.


I didn't cry because karan was worried.I had to be strong.


Then I didn't cry because I was numb.


"What about an abortion ?" mom asked , acting brave .


Why ? The thought had never entered her mind before.


Her Pregnancy seemingly drained her , leaving holes in her memory , voids filled with nothingness , and white noise.


What she knew about abortions , pregnancy or about the act of intercourse was passed around by the other girls in the dormitory , often in hushed voices.


"Ticklish men are extra virgin " One would whisper.


"The first time is always the most painful " another would warn.


"A warm coke , shaken up , is a proven spermicide" giggled another friend , pretending to shake an imaginary coke bottle and put it in her.


" A wire hanger , opened up (sharpened up , somebody had said) , some turpentine and two spoons of sugar and lots of vodka..." someone was describing a method of aborting a foetus in a grave hushed voice.


She hated vodka.She also knows about the girl who attempted this method of abortion and bled to death.


This is suicide , and she knew it .Doctors would be an alternative , but what if it was too late?


 


Somehow , she couldn't muster enough courage.


She wanted to live .She was only twenty-one.


So she forgot about it , till this day , until her mother had brought it up , flooding back unwanted memories.


 


To be continued

Thursday, April 26, 2007

Russell Peters whole world's mixing




Russell Peters, edited from the show
- black, white, Asian, brown (south)
- mix just to see what we will get
Hey women , are you listening , a lonley Indian boy wants to experiment .
Lets create some hinjews !

Russell Peters Indian Accent




Russell Peters, edited from the video
- looking for paint?
- cutting tension with the indian accent

Russell Peters - Asians




Asians -don't get pissed off.

Russell Peters Outsourced - English Accent




Learn how british men do it !
Funny...

Azra

I , Azra Shaukat Rahman , am the only child of Late.Shaukat rahman and Nasreen.


I have introduce myself sometime , otherwise , you'll end up listening to a story by a nameless face, a ghost.Ghosts have no power , and I don't want to be a ghost.I'm alive.


A hazy recollection of my past reveals broken memories-scattered events  , shattered conversations and battered images.


Mom would often say "I wish I was never born a woman" or "I wish you were never born" .Those days I thought she hated me.No , she didn't .She hated being a woman, bound by her religion and bound by her country.


I wish I could understand , but we never talked about it.


Didn't she love me ? Yes she did.


She made sure that I grew up a boy.I didn't ask why , though I wish I did.No dolls , no earrings , no necklaces or anything girly.Instead of skirts and salwars, I was made to wear T-shirts and loose pyjamas.Does this have anything to do with the story ? No . I had to say this to someone who is listening to me , Thats all.


So , for all practical purposes , I was  a boy.


But there were signs that I was not going to remain a boy for long.


"Azra's getting a butt on her just like a girl" remarked Meher , my thirteen year old cousin , when were being bathed together.


"Next thing you know, she'll be  mooning in the mirror and wanting to pluck her eyebrows and colour her lips "


"No way" I said defiantly , yet a bit unsure.


I grew up outside the kitchen , playing with plastic guns with other boys.Yet after thirteen , after the  first time I bled , I was no longer allowed to be with the boys.


I was not a boy.


Then what was I?


"You're  your mama's boy , big and strong, and always dependable" mom would reassure.Sadly the oe person who could save this from happening to me , dad , was too consumed by maintaining a struggling business and coping with alcoholism.


Shaukat Rahman, my dad , was in my life , mostly invisible and tragically irrelevant.


But now I knew.I was a woman.


I would have balked at the Idea that pregnancy would make me complete and hence I was a "Complete Woman"


But at least , I was a woman.


To be continued

OOBE




"Mom , I'm pregnant"-


Again , numbness descends mercifully.


I'm outside myself, hovering above , close to the seep-stained ceiling, watching mom gasp.


Right now, i'm much too miserable to wonder what she sees when she looks at me: her only daughter , the bookish nerd ,the constant daydreamer , the chubby bespectacled mess with large manly feet with splayed toes.The boy/girl who metamorphosed overnight into an almost beautiful (marriage material -mom would have said) girl.


She might look at me and find a girl , who is too miserable to look at her mother in the face , which otherwise might see in her mother's eyes the years of blight and disappointment.


But I do hear what she says:  "Oh , Azra , No !"


To be continued

Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Its Christmas.


 


Its christmas.A week long vacation gives us a brief respite from mumbai's heat.Mumbai is always hot.Karan always jokes  that mumbai has three seasons i.e "Hot " , Hotter" and "Hottest".He always got me to chuckle on that one , now I don't know why .



I'm back in  Ahmedabad.Mom , who is Begum Nasreen or more properly Nasreen shaukat rahman is doing the laundry.She's been doing it the same way for the last seventeen years :Soak all whites and colours separately , overnight in hot sudsy water.Then , on sunday , take the clothes out of the buckets with a special wooden stick(mom was allergic to detergent) and then transfer the clothes into our rusty Videocon Semi-automatic along with the sudsy water. And I used to help out , with whatever I could do.


A powerful bonding ritual I've been doing for the last 14 years with mom , looking at mom , lost in one of her long silent episodes.Lost in herself.


I too would lose myself , in the middle of playing with soap bubbles....


 


I know I have to tell her that I'm pregnant.


She's talking about college and how lucky I am to be getting college education.


With a twinge of sadness she recounts her past , where women didn't normally pursue education after high school.In fact , high school education would be a privilege to many girls in those days.As a woman , in those days , one's role was limited to being a housewife and wasting money on a housewife's education was not the done thing.


My mom herself was from a village in Bihar , called Begasurai.Married off at sixteen to a city boy who owned a halwai (* sweets shop) in a big city called Ahmedabad had forced her to abandon her innocence and come in terms with the harsh realities of city life.


My mother a strong woman on her own , wanted me to make my mark in this world.She resented the fact that her english was broken .So she made me learn english .I was introduced to T.S.Eliot as well as Mills and Boons.(she wanted me to be exposed to everything , the good and also the generic crap)


English was my first love , but in college I chose to pursue Commerce.India , was booming.I wanted to ride the boom , but more importantly I wanted to be with Karan.We ended up going to the same college for MBA.


But the near future held no college , no graduation , no degree.


I was knocked out of the running by the application of a faulty condom theory.


"Mom" I blurt "I'm Pregnant "


To be continued

Tuesday, April 24, 2007

Hello?

Why get married at twenty-one ? Why?


Why , when my education is incomplete?


Why?


"Because it is the right thing to do" He tells me , "It is the only thing to do"


"We'll have to tell the folks " He insists "They'll want to know"


Its easy for him.Karan singh , whose parents who live in chandigarh are open minded , forward , modern people.


And then there's the thing about him not being pregnant.


Yet , he is petrified.Instead of calling , he sends them a lengthy E-mail which goes on beating around the bush.The next day they call him , I bet anxiously.I can imagine them gasping at the email that their son has knocked up some girl.


"They want to talk to you" he says finally "   Then  , "Come on !"


I take the phone .Silence.Electric hum greets me. 


I manage to whisper a strangled "Hello?"


"Well ! I guess This is finally the end of college for you !" A serious voice.


But the voice  turns supportive.The future-mother-in law says that whats done is done and she'll be there to help us in any way she can.


This was easy .The hard part is yet to come.


To be continued

Congratulations !

November 14, 2006.


She lies on her back on an examination table in a clinic in Borivili while a middle aged doctor whose name she found in the Yellow-pages inserts his speculum and takes one final look.He turns to the sink and washes his hands.


"Congratulations! he says"You are pregnant"


Dull incomprehension...turns into gradual realization  like the lifting of a fog.


She gets dressed."I'll want to see you in a month and please convey my congratulations to your hubby and your family"the doctor says smiling "isn't this your first time?" He is writing a prescription , vitamins and other supplements while saying "you got to be very careful mommy"


" Mommy "?


 Rage threatens to explode.


' If he congratulates me or calls me Mommy , I swear to god I'll kick him in the nuts, then in his sagging belly .If I have to , I'll bury my foot in his disgusting flesh '  she thinks.


Its a hot sunday afternoon.They came to borivili all the way from Vashi so that no one would ever find out.


She walks through the glass doors , out of that clinic.Karan Singh , her boyfriend , refused to come in.


It feels weird in a gyno's office...What will people think ? '


He simply couldn't believe this is happening to him.Her boyfriend of three years  waits anxiously , puffing furiously at a cigarette.


"You're not are you ? he asks


"Yes"


"Yes , you are not?" his eyebrows rise , so do his hopes...


"Yes , I am ! Idiot !"


His feelings are hurt , but she doesn't care.She's numb ,  a bit catatonic.


He persists "I just don't think you are .I just don't see how you could be"


Classic state of denial.


He, her boyfriend of three years , has a theory on the correct use of condoms , but after all he is just an MBA student , and so is she.So what better do they know?


Statistics clearly indicate that condoms have a failing rate of 10 %.  Having majored in statistics , she should have taken it into account.


Even emergency contraceptives occasionally fail.Who the bloody hell knew that ?Why was everything going wrong only with them?


This was the third period she has missed , so this isn't just a missed period due to pre-exam jitters.She knew.


He still persists on expounding his theory for the millionth , no , zillionth time , as they head back to their respective hostels , in a train , which is more or less empty.


' What difference does it make now? Why won't he shut up?If I have to listen to him anymore ,I'll have to kill him, too.'  she  fantasizes a double homicide...


At last , even his arguments wear thin against the irrefutable fact.As he leaves her at the gates of her hostel , she can see that his eyes are deep with fear.


"But I'll stand by you" he promises before turning back and leaving.


She knows he will.


To be continued

Monday, April 23, 2007

Comfortably Numb

" Now I'm comfortably Numb" , so declared the maroon T-shirt.Price : Rs.449/-.Expensive !

That was what I wanted to be , instead of being always nervous and under confident in all situations.Comfortably numb and confident.

Comfort zones : we erect barriers , mental and physical ,to protect ourselves , and we feel safe inside them.

The term comfort zone is used to denote a type of mental conditioning resulting in artificially created mental boundaries, within which an individual derives a sense of security.(wikipedia)

These boundaries tend to result in an internal state of mind, an example of which would be rigid attitudes and beliefs, which may not necessarily be true. This may or may not manifest as an external situation in the individual's life.

An example could be a recognised need to leave an unsatisfactory job but the fear of doing so as it would result in losing the sense of security the individual derives from the job. The sense of security the individual perceives could be attributed to the mental conditioning formed initially.

A comfort zone may result when the mental concept that (a) person(s) has/have about something and actual reality of it, are not congruent with one another.

These days I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone and explore .I believe it will help me expand as a person.

So I do the one thing that I detest the most.I tag along with a couple of women who are shopping for clothes.Men will agree that there is nothing more boring (and terrifying) than accompanying women while they are shopping.One false move , and one wrong answer to such trick questions as "Does this make me look fat ?" will land us in a lot of trouble.

 

I tell them that I'm going to tag along with them .They don't object, but ask why.

So I squarely tell them that its for my blog.

(I lied , but since I tell them its for my blog , I'm obliging them by writing one)

So two women  ,( one of them looks like salma hayek according to Myheritage.com)  embark on a shopping trip with me in the  undertow.

They take me to various shops exclusively catering to women .Women's clothes , accessories , footwear, lingerie  etc.

I'm a guy .Given a chance to ogle , I will.

But being the only guy in a ladies-exclusive shop , I simply couldn't ogle.  

Performance anxiety? Perhaps...

I'm naturally petrified.I don't want to enter these places.But I make myself enter them and promise to stay there no matter how uncomfortable it gets.

I want to run away , I don't belong in this all-women kingdom, but somehow I stand my ground.

I learn that these two women think that shopping for clothes is a chore , a job to be done as quickly as possible.But the way they deliberate , the way they mull over their  decisions , it seems like it is a matter of life and death. Who knew that ? I thought women loved to shop for clothes!

I do learn that 3/4 th pants are called Capri's (also learnt they are pronounced kay-prees)

Man , I'm glad to be a man.We men have pants , shorts , shirts and t-shirts.Thats it ! No Capri's , no stoles , no scones (!?), just simple shirts and pants.

I'm also learning to be comfortable in a patently uncomfortable situation.

Why are you doing this? they ask me ...Do you like Karan Johar? ...another veiled question which actually means to ask "are you gay ?"

They know that I'm not.But they can't resist teasing me.

I don't tell them about my comfort zone theory.Maybe some other day.

But then , truly like the women that they are (no disrespect intended) they don't find a single piece of clothing that entirely satisfies them.Some clothes are not fitting right and some are not the right kind and some are too expensive .So some-thing's missing always.

We finally go to a huge mall.I rejoice as I'm never bored in malls.

I actually go and pretend like I'm going to buy toys for my non existent seven year old brother and ask the sales lady about the right toy to buy.

I also talk to other sales ladies and I no longer feel uncomfortable in the ladies section.I go to the mens section ,browse at some T-shirts.

One t-shirt says "Now I'm comfortably numb "

Its true !

I am...

I don't buy the t-shirt.I simply go to the bookstore in the mall , excusing myself, now that I'm truly numb.

 

p.s.

This is important , because now , i'll be writing stories which will be truly out of my comfort zone.

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Russell Peters - Beating Your Kids




Now he's talking about y parents should beat their kids! SERIOUSLY gotta watch it!

Damn funny - also recommended by a friend who looks like salma hayek.

Sunday, April 22, 2007

Fashion Police

A few days ago I was arrested by the Fashion Police.They cited their reasons for arrest as  that my present ensemble of Apple green T-shirt and Coffee-brown flared jeans was a major fashion faux-pas.


They proceeded to explain to me the intricacies of fashion and the importance of colour co-ordination and changing fashion trends with changing seasons.


It was a balmy afternoon , just after my Fire Fighting class.I was standing alone in a bus stand  , waiting for Bus No 11 to take me to my flat .The damn bus was late...


They appeared out of nowhere: Two nubile nymphets , self proclaimed and self -empowered fashion police.


Let's just say they were not so nubile and they weren't nymphets either, but they took it upon themselves to teach me the basics of fashion.


But let me digress a little.


My fashion sense (or the lack of it ) was largely due to mom choosing all my clothes in my formative years till the time I left my house to earn a living.She always bought all my clothes(except my boxers , which I preferred over briefs ).Mom was the one who took all the decisions , weighing in options , taking into account factors like rough use and Growth spurts in the teenage years , so there was simply no need to understanding anything apart from remembering to zip your pants before going out.


As a tween , I used to watch FTV    .All those years of secretly watching Fashion T.V  didn't really help me with developing my fashion sense either.All I did was wait for wardrobe malfunctions and nipple-slips .Occasionally I did watch Midnight Hot in which scantily clad anorexic models displayed their flesh(but mostly bones)  in various poses.It was stimulating , but sadly I did not have a skeletor-fetish.


I did learn a few useless French words "Haute Couture "and "Pret-a-porter" and countless brands with funny names (and funnier pronunciations) like Gucci (Pronounced as Gooshy ), Versace and Dolce & Gabbana.


I also learnt a few names of super models which I promptly forgot .The requirement for these models was to be 'boys with breasts' i.e . , these models should have the bodies of 12 year old boys and have a pair of breasts on them (from what I saw , size didn't matter ).


Sadly the Indian Information and Broadcasting ministry has banned FTV for promoting indecency and obscenity in India.


Ok , enough digression , lets get back on track.


The fashion police , a couple of first year girls from National Institute of Fashion Technology(NIFT) , were embarking on their first out of campus challenge.To educate a straight man on the nuances of fashion.Easier said than done.


They started telling me how apple green and baby blue weren't actually Indian colours.Here I was thinking that I was wearing a green tee and brown jeans but these girls corrected me that my ensemble (ensemble? WTF? I'm wearing a tee and a jeans , for pete's sake!) ,  was  reminiscent of govinda's attire.


Then , because the bus was late , I decided to stay there , but blank out.I think they were telling me something about baby blue T-shirts and Maria Sharapova and thanks to that I promptly got lost in myself imagining Ms.Sharapova in a baby blue bikini.


 


P.S. I still have a T-shirt in the same colour as that of sharapova's dresss, but its a manly Muscle-tee OK, so I don't want to hear anymore about it.


P.P.S.  I still don't get fashion.And today , I'm wearing the same green T-shirt and Brown jeans combo defiant of the warnings by the fashion police.

TV Theme Songs - TelevisionTunes.com

http://www.televisiontunes.com/
Ever had one of those telly tunes stuck in your head?
And wanted to hear them once more?

Well , here is your answer....Televisontunes...only , you'll end up with a few more tunes stuck in your head now...

Friday, April 20, 2007

All Asians look Alike


This is how indifference and hate make a deadly mixture.


All asians do not look alike.


I don't look like the guy next to me.


I don't look like a chinese national or a malaysian or a filipino .


But...


Soon koreans and chinese and and indians and afghanis will all look the same to fear mongers.


"Brown is the new Black ": Fear has a new colour.


And its a shame , because we don't deserve it.

Thursday, April 19, 2007

Questions?

Here is an excerpt from www.Somethingawful.com


The accumulation of knowledge has long been the most noble of all humankind's pursuits. The best among us want to know. It is not simply enough to accept things as they are, or speculate on what might be without following through with verification or scrutiny. There is an innate need within us to learn more, to unravel every puzzle, to unlock every door. When we evade knowledge we stagnate and falter as a species, but when we thirst for it we rise to new heights. And from those heights, we look back at how far we've come, knowing that once we were as animals, and now we are wise and true. Then, we wipe the sweat from our furled and learned brows, turn away from the past, and endeavor to climb higher to new pinnacles of understanding.


That pursuit of knowledge continues even to this day on the virtual frontiers of the Internet. One of the latest crazes sweeping the Internet is that of question and answer sites. Something Awful has long hosted its own forum for questions, which quickly became an invaluable resource for inept nerds looking for tips on how to psychologically manipulate women into sexual relationships. Larger sites like Yahoo also have question and answer sections, inviting users to ask away and encouraging others to provide answers, whether qualified or not. Since this is one of the biggest new features on the Internet and a testament to humankind's bondless curiosity, I thought I would take a few moments and round up some of the most popular questions posed by you, the Citizens of the Digital Kingdom.


So what is it you guys want to know so badly?




  • Is blood important??
  • Can I get pregnant from phone sex?
  • How do I containerize farts?
  • My boyfriends penis emits screeching noises, is this normal???
  • Is there a way to trap a woman's soul in a jar and then hold it for a ransom of sex????
  • Approximately where is the vagina, anyway?
  • How do I get my cat to mate with my dog?
  • Is dumping a girl over the operating system she uses acceptable? Windows ME? Come on!
  • is that old adage "you are what you eat" true??? because i just ate a hamburger and i do not want be a hamburger.
  • Accidentally shot gf with potato cannon. Best way to say I'm sorry?
  • I get hairy on full moons am I... a werewolf? (I am also hairy other times of the month).
  • Best type of razor if you are a werewolf and want to shave your junk (for your girlfriend)?
  • are there ways i can get girls pregnant without having sex with them? answer quick!!
  • How do I erase a girl's memory?
  • Where can I get a fanny pack emblazed with stirring images of wolves?
  • how do i convince my girlfriend to let me donkey punch her???
  • do gay dudes high five each other during gay sex? (need to know asap)
  • Operating an unauthorized Red Lobster franchise out of my garage, need advice.
  • my bro says u ain't a man til you get the clap
  • how do i get rid of the clap?
  • How do I prove to my friend my Asperger's is more severe than his "Asperger's"?
  • Is it O.K. to keep my child home on days when the school teaches the Satanic conspiracy of evolution?
  • How do I communicate with females without ever having to talk to them?
  • Did the Rapture just happen just now?
  • How can I teach my dog to talk like a parrot?
  • My bro's best dawg is an astronaut, he says you can't get boners in space?
  • What would happen if you ghost rode a whip through an ancient Indian burial ground?
  • When can I find the theme song to ALF in ring tone form?
  • Where might I download college essays on ethics?
  • Why don't dogs like wearing pants?
  • How do I convince that girl in the Welch's Grape Juice ads to come home with me tonight?
  • In the market for a refurbished real doll. Best sources?
  • Tell me how to get in on the growing urban trend of street falconry.
  • Should I spit my tobacco before performing oral?
  • What happens if I hook an e-meter to my ballsack? I don't want to pass on any thetans to my wife.

Clearly, users of the Internet are overburdened with an insatiable thirst for knowledge. Let us hope the heights we soar to do not make us dizzy and cause us to stagger backwards, land on our heads, and forget the knowledge we acquired.

Sexual Chocolate :Kisses or Hershey's Kisses ?



 It seems that not even the most passionate of kisses can make a person’s heart beat as fast as the sensation of chocolate melting on the tongue.

And, scientists at the private research company The Mind Lab have the scientific data to prove their point.

As a part of their experiment, a team of researchers led by neurophysiologist Dr David Lewis hooked up the hearts and heads of a group of 12 volunteers to electrodes who were then asked to taste pieces of dark chocolate before kissing their partners.

They found that chocolate produces a buzz that lasts up to four times as long as an embrace with that special someone, with the number of heartbeats per minute more than doubling from a resting rate of 60 to as much as 140.

Dr Lewis admits that the results did come as a bit of a surprise.

"These results really surprised and intrigued us. While we fully expected chocolate - especially dark chocolate - to increase heart rates due to the fact it contains some highly stimulating substances, both the length of the increase together with the powerful effects it had on the mind were something none of us had anticipated," the Daily Mail quoted him, as saying.

The study revealed that, at the point chocolate melts in the mouth, all regions of the brain receive a boost far more intense and longer lasting than the excitement produced by kissing.

The researchers also noted that although the fairer sex is generally considered to be bigger chocoholics than men, both sexes showed the same response to chocolates, leading the team to conclude that ‘chocolate beats kissing hands down’.

"There is no doubt that chocolate beats kissing hands down when it comes to providing a long-lasting body and brain buzz - a buzz that, in many cases, lasted four times as long as the most passionate kiss," Dr Lewis added.

Chocolate contains a number of substances that give 'natural highs', including phenylethylamine, which is produced by the body when people are in love, and theobromine. 


Therefore to conclude I give you...125 reasons why chocolate is better than sex

1   The average piece of chocolate is at least six inches long.
2   Chocolates stay hard for a week.
3   Chocolate won't tell you size doesn't count.
4   Chocolates don't get too excited.
5   A chocolate never suffers from performance anxiety.
6   Chocolates are easy to pick up.
7   You can fondle chocolates in a supermarket.
8   ...and you know how firm it is before you take it home.
9   Chocolates can get away any weekend.
10  With a chocolate you can get a single room.
11  ...and you won't have to check in as "MRS. Chocolate".
12  A chocolate will always respect you in the morning.
13  You can go to the movie with a chocolate ... and see the  movie.
14  At a drive-in, you can stay in the front seat.
15  Chocolate can always wait until you get home.
16  A chocolate won't eat all the popcorn.
17  ... or send you out for Milk Duds.
18  A chocolate won't drag you to a John Wayne film festival.
19  A chocolate won't ask: "Am I the first!"
20  Chocolates don't care if you are a virgin.
21  Chocolates won't tell other chocolates you're a virgin.
22  Chocolates won't tell anyone your not a virgin anymore.
23  With chocolates, you don't have to be a virgin more than  once.
24  Chocolates won't write your name and number on the men's room wall.
25  Chocolates don't have sex hangups.
26  Chocolates won't make you wear kinky clothes.
27  Chocolates won't go to bed with boots on.
28  Chocolates aren't into rope or leather.
29  You can have as many chocolates as you can handle.
30  You only eat chocolates when you feel like it.
31  Chocolates never need a round of applause.
32  Chocolates won't ask:  Am I the best?  How was it?
33  Chocolates aren't jealous of your Gynecologist, or hair dresser.
34  A chocolate won't want to join your support group.
35  A chocolate never wants to improve your mind.
36  Chocolates aren't into meaningful conversations.
37  Chocolates won't ask about your last lover...
38  ...or speculate about your next one.
39  A chocolate will never make a scene because there are other chocolates
    in the refrigerator.
40  A chocolate won't mind hiding in the refrigerator when your mother comes.
41  No matter how old you are, you can always get a fresh chocolate.
42  Chocolates can handle rejection.
43  A chocolate won't pout if you have a headache.
44  A chocolate won't care what time of the month it is.
45  A chocolate never wants to get it on when your nails are  wet.
46  A chocolate won't give it up for lent.
47  With a chocolate, you never have to say you're sorry.
48  Chocolates don't leave whisker burns, fall asleep on
    your chest, or drool on the pillow.
49  A chocolate won't give you a hickey.
50  Chocolates can stay up all night...
51  ...and you won't have to sleep in the wet spot.

    Afterwards, A chocolate won't:
52          ...want to shake hands and be friends.
53          ...say, "I'll call you a cab."
54          ...tell you he's not the marrying kind.
55          ...call his mother, ex-wife, or therapist.
56          ...take you to confession.
57  Chocolates don't leave you wondering for a month.
58  Chocolates won't make you go to the drugstore.
59  Chocolates won't tell you a vasectomy will ruin it for them.
60  A chocolate a day keeps the OB-GYN away.
61  A chocolate won't work your crossword with ink.
62  A chocolate isn't allergic to your cat.
63  With chocolates, you don't have to play Florence Nightingale during
    the flu season.
64  Chocolates never answer your phone or borrow your car.
65  A chocolate won't eat all your food or drink all your  liquor.
66  A chocolate doesn't turn your bathroom into a library.
67  Chocolates won't go through your medicine chest.
68  A chocolate doesn't use your toothbrush, roll-on, or hairspray.
69  Chocolates won't leave hair on the sink or a ring in the  tub.
70  Chocolates don't leave dirty shorts on the floor.
71  A chocolate never fogets to flush the toilet.
72  A chocolate doesn't flush the toilet while you are taking a shower.
73  With a chocolate, the toilet seat is always the way you  left it.
74  Chocolate don't compare you to a centerfold.
75  Chocolates don't tell you they liked you better with long hair.

    A chocolate will never leave you...
76          ...for another woman.
77          ...for another man.
78          ...for another chocolate.
79  A chocolate will never call and say, "I have to work late, honey."
80          ...and then come home smelling like another woman.

81  A chocolate never snaps your bra, pinches your butt or gives you a snuggy.
82  You always know where your chocolate has been.
83  A chocolate never has to call "the wife."
84  Chocolates never have mid-life crises.
85  A chocolate won't leave you for a cheerleader or an ex- nun.
86  Chocolates don't play the guitar and try to find themselves.

    You won't find out later that your chocolate...
87          ...is married.
88          ...is on penicillin.
89          ...likes you, but loves your brother.
90  A chocolate doesn't have softball practice on the day you move.
91  Chocolates never tell you what they did on R&R.
92  A chocolate won't ask for a promotion just when you're up for a promotion.
93  Chocolates don't care if you make more money than they do.
94  A chocolate won't wear a leisure suit to your office christmas party.
95  You don't have to wait until halftime to talk to your chocolate.
96  A chocolate won't leave town on new year's eve.
97  A chocolate won't take you to a disco and dump you for a flashy outfit.
98  Chocolates never want to take you home to Mom.
99  A chocolate doesn't care if you always spend the holidays with your family.
100 A chocolate won't ask to be put throught Med school.
101 A chocolate won't tell you he's outgrown you intellectually.
102 Chocolates never expect you to have little chocolates.
103 Chocolates don't say "Lets keep trying until we have a boy."
104 A chocolate won't insist the little chocolates be raised Catholic, Jewish,
    or orthodox vegetarian.
105 A chocolate will never contest a divorce, demand a property settlement or
    seek custody of anything.
106 It's easy to drop a chocolate.
107 You can GET chocolate
108 "If you love me, you'll swallow that" has real meaning with chocolate.
109 Chocolate satisfies even when it has gone soft.
110 You can safely have chocolate while you are driving.
111 You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to.
112 You can have chocolate even in front of your mother.
113 If you bite the nuts too hard the chocolate won't mind.
114 Two people of the same sex can have chocolate without being called
    nasty names.
115 The word "commitment" doesn't scare off chocolate.
116 You can have chocolate on top of your workbench/desk during working
    hours without upsetting your work mates.
117 You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped.
118 You don't get hairs in your mouth with chocolate.
119 With chocolate there's no need to fake it.
120 Chocolate doesn't make you pregnant.
121 You can have chocolate at any time of the month.
122 Good chocolate is easy to find.
123 You can never be too young or too old for chocolate.
124 When you have chocolate it does not keep your neighbors awake.
125 With chocolate size doesn't matter; its always good!


 


and 20 more reasons



  1. You can GET chocolate.
  2. "If you love me you'll swallow that" has real meaning with chocolate.
  3. Chocolate satisfies even when it has gone soft.
  4. You can safely have chocolate while you are driving.
  5. You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to.
  6. You can have chocolate even in front of your mother.
  7. If you bite the nuts too hard the chocolate won't mind.
  8. Two people of the same sex can have chocolate without being called nasty names.
  9. The word "commitment" doesn't scare off chocolate.
  10. You can have chocolate on top of your workbench/desk during working hours without upsetting your co-workers.
  11. You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped.
  12. You don't get hairs in your mouth with chocolate.
  13. With chocolate there's no need to fake it.
  14. Chocolate doesn't make you pregnant.
  15. You can have chocolate at any time of the month.
  16. Good chocolate is easy to find.
  17. You can have as many kinds of chocolate as you can handle.
  18. You are never too young or too old for chocolate.
  19. When you have chocolate it does not keep your neighbors awake.
  20. With chocolate size doesn't matter.


 

Spider-man 2 music vid




Train - Ordinary.
I'm waiting for spiderman-3 to come soon. I know its gonna be as good as the previous two movies.
Hey , even mom liked spiderman 2 , and she's the toughest critic alive in India !

"Ordinary"

Whose eyes am I behind
I don’t recognize anything that I see
Whose skin is this design
I don’t want this to be the way that you see me

I don’t understand anything anymore
In this world that I’m tired of
Is taking me right up these walls
That I climb up
To get to your story
It’s anything but ordinary

And when the world is on its knees with me its fine
And when I come to the rescue I get nothing but left behind
Everybody seems to be getting what they need where's mine
‘Cause your what I need so very but im anything but ordinary

Can you save me from this world of mine
Before I get myself arrested with this expectation
You are the one look what you’ve done
What have you done?
This is not some kind of joke
You’re just a kid
You weren’t ready for what you did

And when the world is on its knees with me its fine
And when I come to the rescue I do it for you time after time
Everybody seems to be getting what they need where's mine
‘Cause you what I need so very but im anything but ordinary

I think im trying to save the world from you
You’ve been saving me too
We could just stay in and save each other

Im anything but ordinary
(ordinary)
Im anything but ordinary
(ordinary)

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Night Ranger "Sister Christian"




Male Bonding in Mumbai:Near Dead

In many cliched stories one reads of how the experience of a near death situation changes the outlook of life. Today we got to try it out ourselves.


We are doing a small one week course called Advanced Fire Fighting (AFF).Here we learn about fire , its hazards and ways to tackle and extinguish fire.


It is a week long course with boring lectures on Theory of Fire , Structure of the Fire Fighting Organisation Team and blah blah blah...followed by gruelling fire drills.


Fire Drills are where a team wearing oxygen tanks (called a Self Contained Breathing Apparatus) must enter a mock ship like structure and rescue a dummy or perform other drills.Today , we had the Smoke test.


Imagine a three-storey metal building.Now imagine it baking continuously under the relentless Indian sun at a  god-forsaken temperature of 40 deg c.Now imagine a fire in this metal building.All the doors of this building have been closed.All the windows are sealed.


 As I have written earlier , there is a live fire going on inside.


The entire class was divided into 5 teams of 4 members each.Team A, B,C, D, E.


I was in Team C.We were to enter the building teamwise and come out safely  .The instructor told us to go from the Bridge deck entrance and come out of the Starboard side exit.' Simple Enough !' One might think...


The purpose of this drill is to make you understand what goes on in the minds of the victims trapped inside a fire .So everyone would enter without any protection other than a simple safety helmet.


The first two teams went in and  took ages to come out.They came out coughing , panting  and gasping for air.They had lost their way as the interiors were totally dark and they had feel their way out.They nearly gave up before sounding their alaarm ringer calling for assistance.


After Team B , we were the next ones.Four of us were given one small battery operated torch and one alarm ringer .The torch gave out a weak yellow beam that barely went four feet ahead of us.The alarm ringer was given so that if anyone had an injury , or an unbearable feeling of asphyxiation or simply panicked , he could raise an alarm and the instructors would rush to his aid.At least in theory , they would rush to our aid .Reality as a whole different ball-game.


Team C , including me , offered silent prayers to God before entering the building.We promised each other that we would not leave behind anyone.And then , armed with one torch and one alarm ringer four of us entered into the Bridge Wing.


The Door slammed shut behind us.We were given five minutes the previous day to explore the whole structure and layout.No one took it seriously, and we all goofed off.


Now we all wished we hadn't.


It was eerily quiet inside .We all had remembered to take a large gulp o fresh air before going in.The only sound inside was that of the crackling of the burning wood and our own breathing.And of our hearts beating crazily .


We had to compete this test compulsorily , or else fail the entire course.And being the best amongst all the teams , we had set a goal of Three minutes or under to get out.We started going inside another entrance which could lead us from the third storey (the Bridge Deck) to the second storey.


Here , in the second storey , things were different.The heat was intense.Thick smoke had reduced visibility to zero and worse of all -we couldn't breathe.Oxygen was a precious commodity here.


Our small weak torch was virtually ineffective in the smoky confines of the second storey.We made a human chain , grabbing onto each other's overalls and started inching forward.We shuffled our feet to find if there were any obstacles in the ground , or if there were any holes in which we could fall.We felt the hot bulkheads of the building and moved ahead very slowly and carefully.Soon , we were out of breath.Our eyes were burning and watering profusely due to the fire and smoke.We had found the crucial railing that could lead us down.But one of us started panicking.He started coughing , heaving and retching violently.We decided to call for help.But panic overtook us here too.The guy with the alarm device could not activate it.Somehow , I was pushed ahead.I had no torch or alarm with me.But I groped ahead of me, trying to feel and find the raiking that would lead us to the lower deck.As a result , my head hit a bulkhead and right  then I found the step ladder which would lead us down.


I screamed at the rest of the team to follow me.I had a hard time breathing , but I had to move on.And as we came down the steps and very close to the exit , the alarm was somehow activated.


The instructor opened the door only to find our team right next to it.We came out coughing and gasping.People started laughing at us .Apparently my face had become black where my head had banged the bulkhead.All our eyes were red and we spat out expletives and smoky phlegm as we came out.


We were happy to be the fastest team that day , finishing the entire drill in 2 minutes 28 seconds.


 


P.S. After e came out we all agreed that we had inhaled smoke equivalent to 20 marlboro cartons.Some resolved never to smoke again ,and out of those  , a few went ahead and smoke 20 minutes later , saying that the new smoke from the cigarettes would displace the old firesmoke in their lungs.Idiots !


 

Abhishek Bachchan Moto ROKR AD




Motorola ROKR ad featuring Abhishek Bachchan.Rocking ad by motorola.Funny and wierd.

This is what defines "cool"
Abhishek is making a complete fool out of himself and and still getting people to like him.
That is COOL.

P.s. I wish Abhiash a eternally lasting happy marriage.

Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Saturday, April 14, 2007

You're not smart.

http://www.duhcorp.com/

The Naked Eye




You might expect men and women to look at sexual photographs differently.But a new study unexpectedly found that man are more likely than women to first look at faces rather than other parts of a nude body.Also , the women in the study spent more time than men looking at images of couples having sex.


"Men looked at the female face much more than women  and both looked at the genitals comparably" said lead author Heather Rupp (note: she is a woman) of the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction.at Indiana University.The findings are detailed in the journal Hormones and Behaviour.


"The eye-tracking data suggested what women paid most attention to was dependant upon their hormonal state."Rupp said""women using hormonal contraceptives looked more at the genitalia , while women who were not using hormonal contraceptives paid more attention to contextual elements of the photographs"

Myths of Porn

http://www.oneangrygirl.net/myth5.html

Hinder - Lips Of An Angel




The Movie Spoiler

http://www.themoviespoiler.com/
Your guide to the latest plot twists and surprise endings, now playing at a theater near you!

Friday, April 13, 2007

The Namesake

Rating:★★★
Category:Movies
Genre: Drama
What do you do with your ugly daughter ?
Send her to Paris.Here She will learn to be a sultry smoking seductress ! No kidding !

The Namesake (2003) is the second book by author Jhumpa Lahiri. It was originally a novella published in The New Yorker and was later expanded to a full length novel. It explores many of the same emotional and cultural themes as her Pulitzer Prize-winning short story collection Interpreter of Maladies. Moving between events in Calcutta, Boston, and New York City, the novel examines the nuances involved with being caught between two conflicting cultures with their highly distinct religious, social, and ideological differences.

I haven't read the novel myself, but it is supposed to be good.
The movie , is supposed to exceed the novel.In all my life (about 23 years) I've never seen a movie being better than its Novel.

The movie revolves around Ashoke Ganguly (Irfan khan) , Ahshima (tabu) , Gogol (kal pen) and the rest of the cast are really bystanders with not much screen time.
Kal penn , originally Kalpen modi , had to anglicise his name to get More auditions in hollywood.

I'd say that all the actors deliver a fine performance.You forget that none of the lead actors are bengali.Tabu plays a beautiful yet elegiac Ahshima with a lot of conviction.Irfan khan , well , he is one of the finest actors of India , so enough said.
Kal penn is good , though I was waiting for him to start his antics like in his previous movies.

The story is a picaresque plot about the ups and downs of life as faced by the Ganguly family , and later the teen angst and rebellion brought on by an identity crisis , and goes on detailing the effects of death on the family and its consequences.
Quick Spoiler:
Gogol hates his name : it's weird , it troubles him , but he finally makes peace with himself .

The fatal flaw in the movie is the lack of pace.As I said before , it is a picaresque plot.But the highs are not as high as you think they are and the lows don't move you as much as you'd expect them to.
I guess the biggest mistake I made was to watch the trailer too many times.The trailer literally has all the best bits of the movie.But the trailer is edited in such a way that you expect more from the movie.Alas , it doesn't deliver .

There are a few cutesy moments , like the sparkling interaction between Irfan and tabu and Kal penn and Zuleikha , but thats it.It does not hold many surprises for you.
I guess , I'm the kind of guy who likes 'Back Friday " more than "The Namesake "


So Am I supposed to wax about this movie just because every one else is ?
No I will not.
Its the same as the 'Emperor's New Clothes " , http://www.cremationofcare.com/the_nwo_pie_emperors_new_clothes.htm

Men , We are getting Redundant !


An excerpt From AIIMS research

 Enjoying a long sauna, reaching for a tight pair of trendy jeans and working on a laptop balanced on the thighs might have side-effects that have not crossed the minds of most males — these lifestyle factors are now being linked to a dramatic fall in fertility of north Indian men.

A study conducted by AIIMS has revealed that the sperm count of a normal adult male in India, which used to be 60 million per ml around 30 years ago, has plunged to a third of that count — to around 20 million per ml. And this relatively swift decline in sperm count is being linked to habits which expose the scrotum to higher-than-normal temperatures.

The 10-year-long study, funded by ICMR and conducted by AIIMS associate professor Dr Rima Dada, questioned 1,000 men from north India and found that lifestyle factors like tight clothing, hot tub dips and long visits to the sauna, pesticide exposure due to intensive gardening or farming as well as increased obesity rates were major causes for decreasing sperm count.

Dada told TOI, "Tight-fit denim trousers result in tightly encased groins, causing the testicles to be pressed back into the warmth of the body. Obesity is also a major factor for this decrease in sperm production. Sudden weight gain leads to increase in abdominal fat, which causes high testicular temperature." Stress is another factor that lowers the sperm count, she said.

An earlier State University of New York study showed how laptops damage fertility. Laptops reached internal operating temperatures of over 70 degrees C and because they are frequently positioned close to the scrotum, the user sits with his thighs close together. This, too, traps the scrotum between the thighs.

 

Another News flash from BBC

Scientists say they have successfully made immature sperm cells from human bone marrow samples.

If these can be grown into fully developed sperm, which the researchers hope to do within five years, they may be useful in fertility treatments.

But experts have warned the findings from the German study should be interpreted with caution at this very early stage.

And proposed new laws would ban their use in fertility treatments in the UK.

This means that they could synthesise sperm from a woman too , bypassing the biological need for a man.

Soon Men won't be required at all , or atleast these researchers would like us to believe that.

 

So all you jeans wearing Laptop toting men , beware !You are literally frying your family jewels ! (And they are not meant to be fried !)

 

So men , I propose that we all wear Mundus or lungis .Even Brad Pitt has worn a lungi. Maybe we can adopt togas and prevent our extinction and delay making the earth a heaven to live in !

A Men's Room Monologue

http://www.pokegravy.com/animation/show.php?type=Flash&name=amensroommonologue&dims=640,480&title=A+Men%27s+Room+Monologue
Hilarious -I promise !

From Women to Men

1. The reason why our bras don't always match our underwear is because WE actually change our underwear.

2. The next time you and your buddies joke about armed women in combat, take a poll to see which of you successfully aim at the toilet rim.

3. If we're watching football with you--it's not bonding--it's their butts.

4. Whenever possible, please try to say whatever you have to say after the movie.

5. Lay off the beans several hours before bedtime.

6. Please don't drive when you're not driving.

7. If you were really looking for an honest answer, you wouldn't ask in bed.

8. The next time you joke about female drivers, research the number of accidents caused by rubber-necking mini-skirts.

9. If only women gossip, how do you and your friends keep track of "who's easy"?

10. Stop telling us most male strippers are gay: we don't care.

11. When you're not around, I belch loudly, too.

12. We don't mind if you look in the mirror to check your appearance -- in fact -- please do !!!

13. When you're out with us, please wear "our" favorite outfit rather than "yours" -- the torn jeans and dirty T-Shirt will last longer that way.

14. If you must grunt in reply, please develop a system to indicate a positive vs a negative grunt.

15. Don't insist that we "get off the stupid phone" and then not talk to us.

16. Eye contact is best established above our shoulder-level.

17. Cleaning the house is not necessarily "women's work"; besides, most of the "dirt" and clutter is yours anyway.

18. Yes, we know most of the great chefs are men, why is it then you never want to cook?

19. We go to the Ladies Room in groups to talk about you.

20. Yes, we know you can probably beat us arm wrestling; however, very few raises or promotions were gained by arm wrestling the boss.

How Do You Pee ? (WARNING:Not for women who easily get disgusted !)


What type of guy are you when you go pee?

Excitable Type
Pants are twisted, cannot find hole, rips pants in anger.

Sociable Type
Joins pals for a pee whether he wants one or not.

Timid Type
Cannot pee if anyone is watching, pretends he has been and sneaks back later.

Nosy Type
Peeps over partition to have a look at the other fellow's thingy.

Indifferent Type
All urinals being occupied, uses sink.

Clever Type
Pees without holding tool, shows off by adjusting tie at the same time, pees on foot.

Vain Type
Undoes 5 buttons when 2 will do.

Absent-Minded Type
Opens jacket, takes out tie, pees in pants.

Worried Type
Is not quite sure what he has been up to lately, makes a furtive but close inspection of tool while peeing.

Disgruntled Type
Stands for a while, grunts, farts, tries to pee, fails, farts again and walks out muttering.

Conceited Type
Holds 2-inch tool like a baseball bat while peeing.

Sneaky Type
Drops silent farts while peeing and looks at the guy next to him.

Sloppy Type
Pees on shoe, walks out with flies undone, adjusts himself ten minutes later.

Learned Type
Reads a book or newspaper while peeing.

Childish Type
Watches bubbles at bottom of the urinal while peeing.

Efficient Type
Waits until has to poop and does both at the same time.

Strong Type
Bangs tool on side of urinal to remove drops.

Drunken Type
Pulls out tool, sees two, puts one away, and pees in trousers.

Embarrassed Type
Covers tool with both hands and pees through fingers.

Cock-Eyed Type
Stands in one cubical and pees in next one.

More than words




Saying I love you
Is not the words I want to hear from you
Its not that I want you
Not to say, but if you only knew
How easy it would be to show me how you feel
More than words is all you have to do to make it real
Then you wouldnt have to say that you love me
Cos Id already know

What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldnt make things new
Just by saying I love you

More than words

Now Ive tried to talk to you and make you understand
All you have to do is close your eyes
And just reach out your hands and touch me
Hold me close dont ever let me go
More than words is all I ever needed you to show
Then you wouldnt have to say that you love me
Cos Id already know

What would you do if my heart was torn in two
More than words to show you feel
That your love for me is real
What would you say if I took those words away
Then you couldnt make things new
Just by saying I love you

Thursday, April 12, 2007

Yeh Hai Mumbai Meri Jaan (This is Mumbai my love !)

I'm back in mumbai , the city of dreams.


My vacation is over.Now Its back to hell again.


I have a Love/Hate relationship with this city.


Mumbai has given me everything , a new life , a new voice , a new reason to live and anything that I could ask for , but I hate it .


At times I love it.I love it for its energy , its buoyancy and resilience.


I hate it for the chaos it nurtures, the energy sapping crowds , the grime , the dust , the pollution.Yet I love it.


Three more months in mumbai and I'll be back in the infinite oceans and under the azure skies.Cruelty and beauty often can be seen together.The oceans are such an entity.The Oceans  are as unforgiving as they  beautiful.


I miss being at sea with the wind in my face and salt in my hair.


I guess it's time to go back.

Your phone number !

(I have blatantly plagiarised this from someone I don't remember , so I'd like to thank my anonymous contributor )


 


This is really strange.. try it!



GET A CALCULATOR.


1. Key into the calculator the first 3 digits of your phone number (the exchange, not the area code).


2. Multiply by 80


3. Add 1


4. Multiply by 250


5. Add the last 4 digits of your phone number


6. Add the last 4 digits of your phone number again


7. Subtract 250


8. Lastly, divide by 2


Is this your phone number?



 

Mr. Mister - Broken Wings




Another Favourite .
Beautiful song !

Wednesday, April 11, 2007

The Rasmus~ the one i love




random pics of the rasmus, lauri, pauli, aki, and eero to The Rasmus song "the one i love"

Haven't slept in a week
My bed has become my coffin
Cannot breath, cannot speak
My head's like a bomb, still waiting
Take my heart and take my soul
I don't need them anymore

The one I love
Is striking me down on my knees
The one I love
Drowning me in my dreams
The one I love
Over and over again
Dragging me under

Hypnotized by the night
Silently rising beside me
Emptiness, Nothingness
Is burning a hole inside me
Take my faith and take my pride
I don't need them anymore

This bed has become my chapel of stone
A garden of darkness to where I'm thrown
So take my life, I don't need it anymore

Monday, April 9, 2007

Attraction is strange


Attraction is strange.


Now we've finally got all the pieces we need to explain ATTRACTION and
how women feel it for some men, but not others.

If a man has great genes, a woman might be willing to mate with him
even though he ís not going to stick around to help raise the child.
If a man has money (or means), a woman might be willing to mate
with him because he can provide best for her (and her future offspring).

Ask the Bartender

Why do most girls want me as a "Friend" ? I'm a nice guy, I treat them well, respect them , don't disagree with them , but NO ! All they want to be is friends ? :(I'm attracted to them , but they say say they like me but not in a serious way ?
what is happening ? Anon

You see, most guys have a big misconception they don't realize there ís
a difference between affection and ATTRACTION, and they're creating
affection when they want ATTRACTION. Guys who often get befriended read
signs of affection as possible attraction, get full of hope, and think she'll realize she's got exactly what she wants in them as her friend.
Attraction is what women feel for bad boys. Affection is what women feel for male friends and guys who take them out for so long that they fall for
him.
You canít get to attraction through the affection of being a nice guy
who buys gifts and dinner. Women say, I like him as a friend, even about
guys who would be a perfect match for what they say they want from a
man.
There are two types of relationships: Friends and Lovers. Friend
relationships are nice, but predictable, have no spark, and are sexually blah.
Lover relationships are emotional and passionate with lots of attraction and sexual chemistry.
The truth is that they want something more exciting than what they say
they want. If you ask a woman who has a history of dating jerks and abusive guys, all you have to do is say, Yeah, but I'll bet the sex was great, wasn't it? and you'll see the knowing smile.

Translating Between Affection and Attraction
Here ís 7 behaviors that create affection, and their attraction-creating
counter-parts:

Affection-Behavior   
Buying Gifts (Dinner, Flowers)
Seeking Approval
Showing Off     
Listening to Problems
Doing Favors    
Accepting Flaky Behavior
Changing to Please Her

Attraction-Behavior
 Surprise Romance 
Indifference  
Being Vague, Elusive, Mysterious
 Teasing
Acting with Self-Respect
Having High Expectations 
 Maintaining Self-Confidence


Learn these behaviours and you'll see a change !







Sunday, April 8, 2007

Natural blues - Moby




One of Moby's best songs !

Stand by me "Orginal"inclusiv with River Phoenix




Stand by me "Orginal"inclusiv with River Phoenix

A movie based on one of my all time favourite novella by stephen king, the Body , a novella , one of the four of Different seasons.

Tricks and tips to make your chick watch Action Flicks !

Honesty is the best policy , but never with a woman.

Ever wanted to watch a action flick with your chick , while your chick wants to drag you to the chick-flick tear fest that she's dying to see and you'll die watching it ?

Then my man , follow this course of action.

1)Tell her that the movie is a tender romantic story about a woman experiencing a painfull loss .But leave out the part about the twenty five minute car chase scene and the high body count.

2)Tell her you're taking her out to dinner (it's just that dinner will be a hot dog and popcorn with some soda)

3)On no account let it slip in that Vin Diesel is in it.

4)Appear surprised when she points out that she's the only woman in the movie theatre.

5)Tell her it's a film about marital arts , then  afterward pretend to be shocked that it was martial arts.

6)Promise to go shopping with her(only if it's bikinis or plasma TVs)

7)Tell her that you are the man and you will decide what movies you see (This may not work /may get punched in the face)

Disclaimer :This tutorial is for educational purposes only and the author does not take any responsibility for the current status of your relationship)

Broken - Seether w/ Amy Lee




Broken - Amy Lee /seether

Geni - Everyone's Related

http://www.geni.com
Ever wanted to know why no one else in your family was from cambodia except you ?
Your'e adopted pal !
But if you want to know if there are any monkeys in your family tree , this is the right place !

Whisper in the ears of Gods !

Religions are , by definition , are metaphors, after all: God is a dream , a hope , a woman , an ironist , a father , a city , a house of many rooms , a watchmaker who left his prized chronometer in the desert , someone who loves you -even , perhaps, against all evidence, a celestial being whose only interest is to make sure your football team , army , business, or marriage thrives , prospers , and triumphs over all opposition.
Religions are places to stand and look and act , vantage points from which to view the world.
-Neil Gaiman (American Gods)

I have a confession to make.I'm afraid of religious fanatics and religious zealots.

Its more fashionable to be an atheist these days !

But I'm a freelance believer.I'd like to believe that I believe in Lord Ganesha as much as Jesus or Allah or Anansi or anyone else.Well India supposedly has thirty-three crore Gods ! so one is practically spoiled for choice !

For me , it was always God, thats it ! , no other name would be necessary for the indefinable belief that I had in God.
My conversations with God have always been candid , informal and friendly.He gives me wise counsel ,guides me and provides me with a philosophy life.
For me , he is a higher being . How high ? Ain't that a silly question... it doesn't matter how high.

In my conversations (always a private monologue !) I told him that he , i.e God was really formless , shapeless and limitless.So his different forms or avatars really didn't matter.
As usual he didn't object.

It was First of january , the first day of the new year according to the Gregorian Calendar which is widely adopted all over the world.
I went to Siddhivinayak temple , a world famous temple in mumbai...
They say some places are endowed with immense power and these places of power attract people .In olden days they built temples , churches , mosques in these places. These days the old gods have been replaced by newer ones : new places of power are inhabited by malls ,casinos, amusement parks and freak shows.People throng here in thousands not knowing that it was the power that pulled them to these malls , casinos amusement parks to spend their money mindlessly.

Siddhivinayak temple : many miracles have been attributed to this holy temple ,as well personal successes of film-stars and gangsters alike , and other events like timely monsoons .

The last time I paid a visit to this temple was four years ago, with my family.We went for blessings for it was the first time I'd embark on a tumultuous journey that would be my career in sea.

Everyone knows of the disparities in mythology.Lord Ganesh ,the god with the elephant head, the main Deity of Siddhivinayak Temple has a mouse as his vehicle.But we were amused to see a cat in the temple right next to a large silver mouse idol .Now the mouse in this temple had powers too.One had to whisper his wishes into one of the ears of the silver mouse while cupping the other so that the wish would not simply flow out of the other ear.And voila ! Your wish would be granted (unless you were a bad person in the eyes of the god)
But being an animal loving person , I spent more time playing with the cat .It was a white , well fed female cat, very cute and well behaved and very very cuddly.We all left the temple smiling from ear to ear!

Four years later things had changed.Lines to enter the temple stretched for kilometres (Yeah , I'm going metric !).Metal detectors were installed and the police would personally inspect your body for suspicious or illegal objects.
It was the New Years day and people who wanted a fresh start came to this temple for some divine grace.There would be many resolutions made and promptly forgotten in the coming days.

My aunt and I went early , leaving the house at the crack of dawn , when mumbai is actually cold(Its all relative , because Mumbai is never chillier than 15 deg C, while I have frozen my balls in minus 22 deg c in montreal and thunder bay).After standing in the line for nearly two hours and being scrutinised by police at two checkpoints we finally were inside the sanctum-sanctorum.Inside the temple , everything was the same except a new set of CCTV's showing Lord Ganesha at all times.We prayed , as usual for a smooth life without insurmountable obstacles (Lord Ganesha specialises in obstacles) and for material wealth that any other mortal would have prayed for.
The cat was nowhere to be found ,but I had something more important to do.The last time I had forgotten to whisper my wishes in the mouse's ears (but they were granted nevertheless ), so I went to the silver mouse, cupped its left ear and whispered "You know what I want , don't you ?" into its right ear and left in search of the white cat to relive the fond memories once again.