Counter fetishism: For every fetishist there is an equal and opposite !

                               Fetishism is a special kind of turn on , where the man gets the impact from a particular part of the female body or from some feminine personal possession: hair or scarves , hands or gloves , feet or shoes .These parts of the body or feminine objects are said by some to be "symbolic substitutes for the loved person".It is much more likely that they are imprintings from early childhood , due to events which happened just at the right time and under the right circumstances to make a permanent hookup.Fetishism is difficult to cure, partly or mainly because few fetishists want to be cured.Many of them get the same bang from the sight or touch or smell of their fetish as a drug addict does from his heroin or Methadone.The prospect of giving up these thrills for square passion has little appeal for them unless their fetish is so far out that it gets them into serious trouble.

                    A dedicated fetishist does not usually make a good husband unless he happens to find exactly the right wife.

                               Since to some extent all men have their preferences , and a great many have at least mild fetishes , one of the easiest ways for a woman to p;ease and hang on to a man is to find out covertly what his fetishes are and indulge or even cater to them secretly .This is certainly what makes (and has made throughout history ) successful Mistresses.Many a war has been fought and many a kingdom made or lost because of a bit of ribbon or lace worn in the proper fetching place.But the matter can be handled more honestly , and perhaps even more effectively , by asking him outright what his fetishes are, and then indulging him.(Much like Bree in Desperate Housewives)

                 Which brings us to a much neglected subject : the counter fetishist, what Dr.Berne would like to call the fetishera.Nearly all fetishists are men.But for every man who is hung up on shoes , there is a woman ready to cater to and groove with him , and for every man who gets his thrills from hair , there is a woman who gets hers from having her locks raped.

                  The groundwork laid for a fetish turn on , depends on the things his family empathized, particularly his mother .In fact the basic rule for fetishes is that the man's fetish is the same as the fetish of his mother's.For example , if the mother took a childlike fascination in collecting a closet full of shoes , he may have a childlike fascination with women's shoes.and her daughter may too.He becomes a shoe fetishist and his sister a fetishera, although it does not work out that neatly.But in general , when a fetishist meets his fetishera and says , "My mother had a closet full of shoes ", fetishera says " "So did mine "
He means :"Mother loved her shoes and so did I ; that's why I'm hung up on your shoes "
She means : "father loved mother's shoes , and thats why I'm hung up on shoes , so i'm glad you love mine "The same applies to large breasts or buttocks , long hair , tight slacks , ruffled skirts , petticoats , furs , or hiking books .the combination of imprinting and sexy secrets in the family becomes irresistible.