Women go for better looking men !

Times have changed !

              A gradual role reversal is happening.Women are now choosing mates more based on their looks than intelligence and men prioritize intelligence in the women that they want.(Well, at least men like Me !)

                   This was proven in a BBC TV programme called Tomorrow's World, where in an experiment devised by noted British psychiatrist Dr.Raj Persaud, the viewing public was presented with two pictures of members of the opposite sex who definitely varied in terms of physical attractiveness- one was obviously prettier or more handsome than the other.Beneath each picture was a kind of lonely hearts column Dr.Raj Persaud had composed in which the person in the photograph was inviting the viewer of the programme to accompany them on a romantic weekend in the Caribbean.The wording was more or less the same, but there were subtle differences which should have been so minor as to operate below conscious awareness.

                     In one script , for instance , the person invited you to swim in the shimmering blue sea;in the other you were invited to swim in the shimmering azure sea.The viewers were then asked to choose the person they would prefer to go away with.Complex vocabulary was used as a proxy for education or intelligence.

              The surprising finding was that women went more for looks in their choice of men, while the men prioritzed intelligence in their choice of women.Just the use of words like 'azure' significantly swung the audience towards the lesser physically attractive person, indicating that the public generally were voting for intelligence over looks, yet amazingly this was more marked in the voting of men.

           This would be good news to all women who think they are not pretty enough and really bad news to all men who think they are not !

Jon Stewart is my hero !

Rock On

Rating:	★★★★
Category:	Movies
Genre:	Drama

Rock On is a mature movie with dollops of bollywood magic in it.We Indians need Bollywood magic in all our movies.The masses cannot digest a movie with no movie magic.So , in the end infusing a bit of bollywood magic makes good business sense.

Moving on with the review...(we'll come back to the bollywood magic later)

Let me digress a bit.What can I do .It's a force of habit...Being forced to watch a scene where Farhan Akthar is in the shower , or the cameraman's close up of Purab Kohli's buttocks in the scene where he sings 'I will survive' and by watching Ranbir Kapoor in his shorts and Six pack Sharuk and all other bollywood leading men with chiseled bodies ,

I realised something ...

Times have changed !

A gradual role reversal is happening.Women are now choosing mates more based on their looks than intelligence and men prioritize intelligence in the women that they want.(Well, at least men like Me !)

This was proven in a BBC TV programme called Tomorrow's World, where in an experiment devised by noted British psychiatrist Dr.Raj Persaud, the viewing public was presented with two pictures of members of the opposite sex who definitely varied in terms of physical attractiveness- one was obviously prettier or more handsome than the other.Beneath each picture was a kind of lonely hearts column Dr.Raj Persaud had composed in which the person in the photograph was inviting the viewer of the programme to accompany them on a romantic weekend in the Caribbean.The wording was more or less the same, but there were subtle differences which should have been so minor as to operate
below conscious awareness.

In one script , for instance , the person invited you to swim in the shimmering blue sea;in the other you were invited to swim in the shimmering azure sea.The viewers were then asked to choose the person they would prefer to go away with.Complex vocabulary was used as a proxy for education or intelligence.(I agree)

The surprising finding was that women went more for looks in their choice of men, while the men prioritzed intelligence in their choice of women.Just the use of words like 'azure' significantly swung the audience towards the lesser physically attractive person, indicating that the public generally were voting for intelligence over looks, yet amazingly this was more marked in the voting of men.

This would be good news to all women who think they are not pretty enough and really bad news to all men who think they are not !

Now back to the review that we had originally intended to write...

Rock On is a movie about rock.No , not the one that you threw at that dog that chased you.Its about Rock...Its about distortion effects,electric guitars,huge amplifiers that would scare the bejeesus out of your deaf granny, the drums,the chord progressions,the electrifying solos and riffs, the mangled vocals...its about the fame, the fortune,sex booze and drugs and loving adoration of millions of fans...its about the whole Rock lifestyle itself.


In the story the past and the present are interlaced together, with Sakshi the lonely wife of Adithya is trying to get closer to her husband by trying to reunite the band members of her husband's past.


'Live your Dream , says the tag line.Flashback reveals that the foursome...Adithya,Joe,KD,Rob just do that when their band,'Magik' wins a talent hunt and lands a contract for an album and music video.

They seemingly have everything now...rock music, each other,drugs,girls and then fame and fortune soon enough.But trouble arises between band members, and a once powerful friendship breaks apart and ends up disbanding Magik.

Questions posed to the viewers are ...

1)Will the band members of Magik come back together resolving their past differences ?
2)Will Magik prove to be magical enough to solve all their problems?
3)Will Rob Nancy die right after the Grand Finale ?

Let me spoil your fun ...

1) Yes.After initial reluctance from Adithya and Joe,the band members reunite and make magik together.(Pun intended !)
2) Yes.Magik brings Adi and his wife closer.KD gets a new girlfriend ! Rob Nancy fulfills his dying wish, and hopefully Joe will benefit from all the publicity the band got, although one never finds out.
3) I would have really hated the movie if they killed Rob Nancy right after the Grand Finale.But they don't ! C'mon , if they killed him right there, it would be very filmy and melodramatic.(something I'm very familiar with !).Instead the story writers decided to kill Rob Nancy two months later.

Let me just add...India is not ready for pure Rock.At least not the masses.We still miss the tablas and dholaks and sitars and guitars mixing together and making beautiful music together which is truly unique in all respects and truly Indian in flavour.So ,in the beginning I did not like the soundtrack of the movie very much.But the songs fit seamlessly in the movie and grow on you...it simply takes time.I still don't like Zahreeley (Too noisy !), but Tum Ho Toh and Sindbad the sailor are my favourite.(hmm...I wonder why ?)


In the acting department we found that Farhan can act , but should refrain from singing in the future ! Let it be done by professionals (Himesh should also be banned from singing and also from making movies),Arjun rampal is perfect as the ageing rocker (hats off to the director for not focusing on arjun rampal's fingers during his solos and hats off to arjun for at least learning basic and barre chord shapes), Purab Kohli and Luke Kenny are equally good.Prachi looks cute throughout , Shahana Goswami is great , and I find her sexy as hell ! (go figure!), and koel purie's role is miniscule and forgettable.

Now for the Bollywood magic I promised you...
1)It happens only in bollywood.The crowd goes wild and ecstatic to an unknown song played by an unknown band.Hey , the crowd even sings along although it has never heard the lyrics before !

2)It happens only in bollywood.You can buy top class equipment (including a wireless amp transmitter) after one gig at a dandiya !

3)It happens only in bollywood.There's a huge traffic jam, and Joe walks out of his stranded taxi and onto the stage within the brief time frame of a single song and a short drum solo ! Did he get Scotty to beam him up onto the stage ?

All in all, Rock On a good movie with good performances.A courageous attempt at introducing Rock to Indian masses, which by initial reports are proving successful.

Guess What ! This is a complete waste of time !

Your result for The Quick & Painless ENNEAGRAM Test...

4- the Individualist

you chose BY - your Enneagram type is FOUR (aka "The Romantic")

"I am unique"

Romantics have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.

How to Get Along with Me

• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.
• Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.
• Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.
• Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
• Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!

What I Like About Being a FOUR

• my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
• my ability to establish warm connections with people
• admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
• my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
• being unique and being seen as unique by others
• having aesthetic sensibilities
• being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me

What's Hard About Being a FOUR

• experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair
• feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don't deserve to be loved
• feeling guilty when I disappoint people
• feeling hurt or attacked when someone misundertands me
• expecting too much from myself and life
• fearing being abandoned
• obsessing over resentments
• longing for what I don't have

FOURs as Children Often

• have active imaginations: play creatively alone or organize playmates in original games
• are very sensitive
• feel that they don't fit in
• believe they are missing something that other people have
• attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists, etc.
• become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood
• feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents' divorce)

FOURs as Parents

• help their children become who they really are
• support their children's creativity and originality
• are good at helping their children get in touch with their feelings
• are sometimes overly critical or overly protective
• are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed

Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele

The Enneagram Made Easy
Discover the 9 Types of People
Harper SanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages

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Unbelongingness

                               "I belong to you " is the biggest lie I've ever told...I belong to everyone and no one.

                Unbelongingness has long plagued me,and often I have  ended up questioning my purpose and existence , with no satisfactory answers forthcoming.

              I'd walk with my people if I could find them.There have been so many false starts, so many crushed expectations, so many false hopes that I'm discouraged to find them anymore.

 

                 If you don't belong anywhere...my friend...then we belong to each other because we share that common thread of unbelongingness.

I understand.

(Artwork by by Franco Paisio)

Don't Look at The Moon Tonight !

              Legend has it that on this day , Ganesha , the hindu god with the elephant head and an obese human body and one extra set of hands was returning home after a grand feast on his behalf.
            Ganesha , our mythological gourmand and our favourite Deity, the destroyer of all obstacles had had more than his fill and his belly was bursting from its seams (though literally impossible)

 As Ganesha was walking back home late at night , he tripped and fell down and his belly which  was impossibly full and nearly bursting , burst open !  Embarrassed  , Ganesha hastily tied his stomach with a snake and resumed on his way.The sight of ganesha falling down and then using a snake as his belt was so comical that Chandra , the moon  burst out laughing !

            Laughter , they say ,when it comes and plops down and sits on your favourite  chair, you are at its mercy until it decides to go by itself.

       Chandra, the moon too was held captive by laughter and Chandra had fits of laughter that later degenerated into sobbing giggles that hurt his tummy.

          Infuriated by the lack of tact on the part of Chandra , the moon, and feeling very insulted and humiliated , Ganesha twisted and broke a part of his tusk and flung it towards the celestial Chandra, the moon forever scarring him.To add insult to injury , Ganesha cursed the scarred Chandra that whoever looked at Chandra on that particular day henceforth would be cursed with being falsely accused of something.

                    Of course, Hindu Gods always gave loopholes on the curses they inflicted.If you happened to watch Chandra on that particular day and did not want to be falsely blamed or accused of something , then you would have to pray to Ganesha and look at Ganesha's reflection in a plate filled with vermilion and water.       Voila ! No more curse !
 
Today was that day.

The day of Ganesh Chaturthi.

I saw the moon tonight.Click here for more.

But I'm not afraid.

Because I saw things that made me sad,angry and mad.

              I saw kids tormenting a tired and weary bitch with her newborn litter of puppies.It confirmed my belief that Humans are the worst kind of animals that God has created (if there is a god ).

            It made me mad that a gang of eight year old hoodlums could inflict such pain and suffering to a helpless creature and its defenseless children.The bitch chased the kids in a desperate attempt to save its litter....The kids were armed with bricks, stones and sticks and were expecting the bitch to retaliate.

            But they did not expect me.

           I chased the kids to protect the mother of the blameless litter of puppies which had barely opened their eyes.

           A bunch of eight year old kids can take on a single emaciated and weakened bitch, but they sure couldn't take on a 23 year old male determined to fight for what he thought was right.

So they ran.

The bitch barked at me once the kids were gone...just as a precaution.After all I was human too.

               I saw the futility in my act .These kids would be back soon.They were poor.They did not even go to school.They had neglecting parents.The kids would be back.And sadly it was not entirely their fault.  I hoped that the bitch saw the futility of its actions too and that it would move away to a more suitable place.

As I left , I prayed for the safety of its family.

         Unbelongingness has long plagued me,and often I have  ended up questioning my purpose and existence , with no satisfactory answers forthcoming.

              I'd walk with my people if I could find them.There were so many false starts, so many crushed expectations, so many false hopes that I'm discouraged to find them anymore.

            "I belong to you " is the biggest lie I've ever told.(Apart from the size of my penis - yes its actually 2 inches longer than what I've told you )
I belong to everyone and no one.

I later went to an old age home and orphanage.It confirmed my belief about humans once again.The old age home was filled with old and the dying and the abandoned and the neglected and the abused and the forgotten and the uncared for.The orphanage was filled with the same...unwanted girls, kids born out of wedlock, abandoned due to poverty and discarded due to mental instability .

It was not their fault.They simply did not belong anymore.

But here they seemed occupied. They seemed happy .Here they belonged somewhere.

      If you don't belong anywhere...my friend...then we belong to each other because we share that common thread of unbelongingness.

I understand.

                   I felt really small when I wrote that cheque to the caretaker.She assured me that she would send me the tax exemption forms along with the receipt for my donation.

Was this all I could do ?  Just give them money ?  Was there anything more?

They assured me that my donation would help educate a girl child for a year.
I felt ashamed because I could afford to give more but did not. But I noticed that all the people at that place who formerly did not belong were happy.It was a festive occasion.It was Ganesh Chaturthi ,the birthday of Lord Ganesha , India's most popular God , who on his birthday had overeaten and fallen down and cursed Chandra the moon.

Seeing their happiness, I was happy to find one instance that humans were not the worst of Gods creations.

Back at home, I remembered that I had inadvertently seen Chandra, the moon.He was waxing slowly. I then went and saw Ganesha's reflection in a bowl filled with vermilion and water , and prayed to him to make this world a better place.