What is your self worth ?

What is your self worth ?
Sociologists try to explain the elusive woman's point of view...

"A woman’s value is based on her desirability to men in general. It has nothing to
do with how desirable you think she is. Most men, shallow beasts that we are, respond primarily to a woman’s physical attractiveness, making her value closely tied to her looks. Actually, her value will be based on her perception of her looks, which is affected by such factors as her self-esteem, her previous experiences with men, and how she feels she compares with other women.

In fact, the more attractive a woman, the greater the influence of unpredictable factors such as her self-esteem. Some extremely beautiful women have an amazing psychological challenge to keep their head on straight. From an early age, they learn many rules don’t apply to them. Men will give them access to high-status social events, money, and excitement that most women their age never get. This can raise awoman’s self-esteem if she takes these things seriously, or lower it if she doesn’t feel she deserves them.

Beautiful women can find themselves irrationally hated by other women, and other people often treat them as if they are one-dimensional sex objects. Unless they have strong personalities or strong family and peer networks, many extremely attractive women end up a little bit loopy. Some pretty women think they are bombshells. Some bombshells think they are average. Some actually think they are ugly and focus on their perceived flaws.

Moreover, a woman’s value can change quite rapidly based on her social context. Put an attractive female in a room full of plain women and she may feel beautiful. Put her in a room full of supermodels and she
may feel average. She may feel beautiful again if she gets a job waitressing at a trendy club and routinely flirts with high-value men – until she gets off work. A new outfit or a haircut may raise her value. Seeing her ex-boyfriend with a beautiful woman may lower it and so on.
All of this serves to illustrate that a woman’s value might be very different from how attractive you think she is.

So then...how is a man evaluated by a woman ?

When you first meet a woman, she will assume that you have roughly the same value as other men she has met in similar situations. If you are a stranger approaching her at a bar, she may notice your clothes, body language, and general appearance, but she is likely to lump you in with the armies of low-value strangers who have approached her at bars before. Thus, she will assume you have low value until you prove her wrong. This partly explains why many women will be more curious about a man in an
exclusive VIP section of a difficult-to-get-into lounge than about someone at a generic bar. You probably think this way too. Imagine meeting someone at Stephen Speilberg’s house.

All things being equal, you would probably assume that they have more going for them than someone you met on a street corner.
Nonetheless, the social context in which you meet a woman does not matter all that much."

Final Note: Attraction for a man is like an on/off switch. Most men are either attracted to someone or they are not. For a woman, attraction is a continuous process, like putting air in a balloon. Doing things that create attraction is like blowing air in the balloon. When you “tone it down” and stop blowing into the
balloon it will gradually and imperceptibly leak air. If you let enough air leak out without refilling it, the attraction becomes stale. It’s extremely hard to rebuild it at this stage; she’ll go looking for other balloons instead. Make sure you periodically refresh her attraction to you throughout your interaction with her.