Pink posterity

I've never been completely honest with any diary that I've confessed to...

a rosy posterity has always been more important than expiation 

or the pursuit of in self.

I am a liar,

to myself 

and 

more so to others...

Perhaps that is the only truth 

I can permit myself to disclose.

Martyr

Drinking black coffee made me feel like a martyr-some one who forgoes the pleasures of a creamy, frothy sweet coffee with the choicest of the toppings...

As a kid I faked an allergy to eggs to avoid eating them.I hated the way the yolk stinks.

Still do.

I've stopped eating simple carbs.

The object of my dieting was never weight loss or weight gain.

Self control.

Thats what it was.

And external control.

In a life that is largely run on schedules and timetables set by someone else, this is one small area where I can still wield power-exert some control-retain some sanity.

I've eschewed rice and roti and embraced eggs and beans.

I still don't like them...eggs, but I'm certainly not allergic to them.

Recently, after a short snorkelling session in the glassy waters of the cook islands, I found out that I'm allergic to sun...polymorphic light reaction is the medical terminology, but the results are large scale scaling of the skin...I turn reptilian, and itchy, and oozing red.

I switched over to chai recently.

It's tiring being a martyr.

My chai is light-just one teabag, very sweet-two heaps of sugar and one third milky.

The chai is an exception to my diet, but I do retain some control over it.Never more than a cup a day.

Some habits die hard.

I'm normalizing slowly, I think.

I'm normalizing...or thats what my intentions are.

How can you remember

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From: "Keshavarao.2001"
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How can you remember

what you've not understood?

You are a collector of memories

of sights, sounds and feelings

But blinder than a blind bat,

eyes wide shut,

ear drums perforated

And full blown sensory neuropathy.

Forever unsure of what you see,

Or ever saw, heard or felt,

and all that remains is fog, mist and dust

For you are a collector of memories

And of memories of memories!

Proust on people you hate.

The whole art of living is to make use of the individuals through whom we suffer.

Proust on people we suffer from

The whole art of living is to make use of the individuals through whom we suffer.

Sent from Samsung Mobile

We are same same, but different

                              As I was travelling towards Mumbai I happened to be seated next to a loud mouthed foreigner dude.

He was fascinated with my current phone (Samsung Galaxy SII), and before we knew it we were talking about each others lives.

He had a blackberry.

I could not hide my pity.

Well, at least it wasn't a nokia.

He was a thirty plus canadian settled in dubai, making his living as a pianist.

I was...well, still the same old me-a salty sea dog on my way to new zealand.

He went first.

I've come here to meet my girlfriend, he said.

She's a doctor, he said.

NOWAYS!GETTOUTTAHERE! My wife is a doctor.

Ah...she's an intern, just a student right now,he said.

NOWAYS!GETTOUTTAHERE! My wife is a student too.

She's in manipal right now, he said.

NOWAYS!GETTOUTTAHERE! My wife is from manipal too.

She was actually born in Madras, he said.

NOWAYS!GETTOUTTAHERE! My wife was born in madras too.

Are you sure its not the same girl? he asked now, a bit nervous.

Just to be on the safe side, he showed me her photo, on his blackberry torch.

It's not the same girl, I reassured.

Ain't she a beauty? He asked, in a curious cockney accent.

          Being in dubai for the last six years, with expats from different caucasian communities has given him a confused mix of accents- sometimes he's a loud nuu yawker, sometimes south african,  sometimes canadian, eh?,  sometimes he's an aussie may-te...while I try to drown out my own incredibly incomprehensible indian accent and speak as neutrally as possible.

(seriously-whites cannot understand the indian accent or our turn of phrases, just like I find singaporian accent funny la!)

I even show him my beautiful wife's photo, just to assuage his fears.

He is relieved,but he still asked...are they sisters?

This is when I explain to him the Texas Sharpshooter's fallacy.

                          But if this was an interaction between a girl and a boy, I would have used all the above points to show how much our stars were aligned and how much we were destined to meet like this.

Ah...stupid psychology...y u spoil all mysteries of serendipity?

The most important thing that leads to success.

The most important thing that leads to success.

What might it be?

Could it be your Mindset?

But what kind of Mindset?
    World renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, after decades of research on achievement and success, has discovered the power of the right mindset, which is explained in her new book titled "Mindset:The new psychology of success"

What would be the right mindset for success?

Simply put, it is the 'Growth Mindset"

The flip side of the Growth mindset would be the "Fixed Mindset"

Lets test your mindset is, shall we?

Read the following four sentences, and write down whether you agree or disagree with each of them.

1.  You are a certain kind of person, and there is not much that can be done to really change that.

2.  No matter what kind of person you are, you can always change substantially.

3.  You can do things differently, but the important parts of who you are can't really be changed.

4.  You can always change basic things about the kind of person you are.

Write down your answer somewhere and see the results at the end of the post.(No peeking beforehand allowed)

If you are someone with a Fixed mindset:
You tend to avoid challenges for the fear of failure, either in your own eyes or in the eyes of others.
You would feel threatened by negative feedback, and would rather attack your critics than do anything constructive about it.
You would feel insulted if someone questioned your knowledge or corrected you.
You would not be open to self improvement.

On the other hand, if you are a person with a Growth Mindset (or want to develop such a mindset):
You believe that abilities are like muscles-they can be made stronger with practice and mindful effort.
You relish new challenges despite the risk of failure.
You constructively react to negative feedback and criticism.
You look at the long term benefits rather than short term gains.
You are open to relearning old things, without getting your ego hurt.
You are willing to try new things that stretch your abilities.

In short, growth mindset is the most important thing that leads to success.

Further reading: Visit the official website to learn more about the Growth Mindset.

                                           http://mindsetonline.com/







(Ans:If you agreed with 1 and 3 , you have a fixed mindset.
        If you agreed with 2 and 4 , you have a growth mindset.


There is a be a chance that you might  have agreed with more than 2 sentences.(as it happened in my case)
                   This simply means that your mindset is a composite of both Growth and Fixed mindsets, and you are the kind of person who adopts a particular mindset only in certain situations.

                                            For example, I had a fixed mindset for many years that I was a bad dancer.But then I got a chance to learn dance in a class where no one knew me previously.Since I would not be judged by anyone I knew I went to the dance class and disproved it to myself that I was a bad dancer.(It turned out that I was just an average dancer who  usually improved with more practice)

             Whatever your results, just remember that  the important thing to do is identify your mindset and modify it in such a manner that it leads to success.