The whole art of living is to make use of the individuals through whom we suffer.
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Sunday, September 11, 2011
Sunday, September 4, 2011
We are same same, but different
As I was travelling towards Mumbai I happened to be seated next to a loud mouthed foreigner dude.
He was fascinated with my current phone (Samsung Galaxy SII), and before we knew it we were talking about each others lives.
He had a blackberry.
I could not hide my pity.
Well, at least it wasn't a nokia.
He was a thirty plus canadian settled in dubai, making his living as a pianist.
I was...well, still the same old me-a salty sea dog on my way to new zealand.
He went first.
I've come here to meet my girlfriend, he said.
She's a doctor, he said.
NOWAYS!GETTOUTTAHERE! My wife is a doctor.
Ah...she's an intern, just a student right now,he said.
NOWAYS!GETTOUTTAHERE! My wife is a student too.
She's in manipal right now, he said.
NOWAYS!GETTOUTTAHERE! My wife is from manipal too.
She was actually born in Madras, he said.
NOWAYS!GETTOUTTAHERE! My wife was born in madras too.
Are you sure its not the same girl? he asked now, a bit nervous.
Just to be on the safe side, he showed me her photo, on his blackberry torch.
It's not the same girl, I reassured.
Ain't she a beauty? He asked, in a curious cockney accent.
Being in dubai for the last six years, with expats from different caucasian communities has given him a confused mix of accents- sometimes he's a loud nuu yawker, sometimes south african, sometimes canadian, eh?, sometimes he's an aussie may-te...while I try to drown out my own incredibly incomprehensible indian accent and speak as neutrally as possible.
(seriously-whites cannot understand the indian accent or our turn of phrases, just like I find singaporian accent funny la!)
I even show him my beautiful wife's photo, just to assuage his fears.
He is relieved,but he still asked...are they sisters?
This is when I explain to him the Texas Sharpshooter's fallacy.
But if this was an interaction between a girl and a boy, I would have used all the above points to show how much our stars were aligned and how much we were destined to meet like this.
Ah...stupid psychology...y u spoil all mysteries of serendipity?
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
The most important thing that leads to success.
The most important thing that leads to success.
What might it be?
Could it be your Mindset?
But what kind of Mindset?
World renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, after decades of research on achievement and success, has discovered the power of the right mindset, which is explained in her new book titled "Mindset:The new psychology of success"
What would be the right mindset for success?
Simply put, it is the 'Growth Mindset"
The flip side of the Growth mindset would be the "Fixed Mindset"
Lets test your mindset is, shall we?
Read the following four sentences, and write down whether you agree or disagree with each of them.
1. You are a certain kind of person, and there is not much that can be done to really change that.
2. No matter what kind of person you are, you can always change substantially.
3. You can do things differently, but the important parts of who you are can't really be changed.
4. You can always change basic things about the kind of person you are.
Write down your answer somewhere and see the results at the end of the post.(No peeking beforehand allowed)
If you are someone with a Fixed mindset:
You tend to avoid challenges for the fear of failure, either in your own eyes or in the eyes of others.
You would feel threatened by negative feedback, and would rather attack your critics than do anything constructive about it.
You would feel insulted if someone questioned your knowledge or corrected you.
You would not be open to self improvement.
On the other hand, if you are a person with a Growth Mindset (or want to develop such a mindset):
You believe that abilities are like muscles-they can be made stronger with practice and mindful effort.
You relish new challenges despite the risk of failure.
You constructively react to negative feedback and criticism.
You look at the long term benefits rather than short term gains.
You are open to relearning old things, without getting your ego hurt.
You are willing to try new things that stretch your abilities.
In short, growth mindset is the most important thing that leads to success.
Further reading: Visit the official website to learn more about the Growth Mindset.
http://mindsetonline.com/
(Ans:If you agreed with 1 and 3 , you have a fixed mindset.
If you agreed with 2 and 4 , you have a growth mindset.
There is a be a chance that you might have agreed with more than 2 sentences.(as it happened in my case)
This simply means that your mindset is a composite of both Growth and Fixed mindsets, and you are the kind of person who adopts a particular mindset only in certain situations.
For example, I had a fixed mindset for many years that I was a bad dancer.But then I got a chance to learn dance in a class where no one knew me previously.Since I would not be judged by anyone I knew I went to the dance class and disproved it to myself that I was a bad dancer.(It turned out that I was just an average dancer who usually improved with more practice)
Whatever your results, just remember that the important thing to do is identify your mindset and modify it in such a manner that it leads to success.
What might it be?
Could it be your Mindset?
But what kind of Mindset?
World renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol Dweck, after decades of research on achievement and success, has discovered the power of the right mindset, which is explained in her new book titled "Mindset:The new psychology of success"
What would be the right mindset for success?
Simply put, it is the 'Growth Mindset"
The flip side of the Growth mindset would be the "Fixed Mindset"
Lets test your mindset is, shall we?
Read the following four sentences, and write down whether you agree or disagree with each of them.
1. You are a certain kind of person, and there is not much that can be done to really change that.
2. No matter what kind of person you are, you can always change substantially.
3. You can do things differently, but the important parts of who you are can't really be changed.
4. You can always change basic things about the kind of person you are.
Write down your answer somewhere and see the results at the end of the post.(No peeking beforehand allowed)
If you are someone with a Fixed mindset:
You tend to avoid challenges for the fear of failure, either in your own eyes or in the eyes of others.
You would feel threatened by negative feedback, and would rather attack your critics than do anything constructive about it.
You would feel insulted if someone questioned your knowledge or corrected you.
You would not be open to self improvement.
On the other hand, if you are a person with a Growth Mindset (or want to develop such a mindset):
You believe that abilities are like muscles-they can be made stronger with practice and mindful effort.
You relish new challenges despite the risk of failure.
You constructively react to negative feedback and criticism.
You look at the long term benefits rather than short term gains.
You are open to relearning old things, without getting your ego hurt.
You are willing to try new things that stretch your abilities.
In short, growth mindset is the most important thing that leads to success.
Further reading: Visit the official website to learn more about the Growth Mindset.
http://mindsetonline.com/
(Ans:If you agreed with 1 and 3 , you have a fixed mindset.
If you agreed with 2 and 4 , you have a growth mindset.
There is a be a chance that you might have agreed with more than 2 sentences.(as it happened in my case)
This simply means that your mindset is a composite of both Growth and Fixed mindsets, and you are the kind of person who adopts a particular mindset only in certain situations.
For example, I had a fixed mindset for many years that I was a bad dancer.But then I got a chance to learn dance in a class where no one knew me previously.Since I would not be judged by anyone I knew I went to the dance class and disproved it to myself that I was a bad dancer.(It turned out that I was just an average dancer who usually improved with more practice)
Whatever your results, just remember that the important thing to do is identify your mindset and modify it in such a manner that it leads to success.
Friday, July 15, 2011
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Saturday, July 2, 2011
Friday, July 1, 2011
Does it hurt when you realize that you weren't being lied upon?
Can you handle the truth?
Yes
No
Maybe
Who wants to know?
Yes
0
No
0
Maybe
0
Who wants to know?
2
Question (1) Can you handle the truth?
Question (2) Read title
Question (3 ) Do you wish if it was a lie?
Question (4) How do you feel now?
(Now that you have gained enough hindsight)
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